HA, Matt!

I also remember Dana's Cheesecake Factory trauma, and as a child (and still sometimes) loved cream soda best for a special treat.

Cream soda is the bomb.

I am still waffling on another thing vs. another think. Which means that I clearly don't have an opinion and should be convinced.

When I get back, I can ask my neighbor what her parents did. I know they were in a facility where her mom was on a secure floor (she had early onset alz, and was pretty much out of it by the end, but at the beginning, she just needed caretakers, not medical intervention,) and her dad had more of a senior apts thing. (Her dad actually does need assistance, did as soon as her mom couldn't handle the household, but more of the can't-cook, confounded by a washer, etc. He needs housekeeping staff and errand runners.) But that was down in VA.

Definitely exercise the hell out of your support groups for programs available thru state and local stuff. We've got a lot down here, but I suspect a lot is assets based.

Did a quick vacuum and load of laundry. Fed SN kitties. I need to go over in the morning, but they are springing her in the morning. She sounds a lot better, so that's good.

Oof, so much to do tomorrow.

My mother also went to a nursing home this morning, and said it was wicked nice, and my father would be in the "active" area, so it's a possibility, although it sounded like the staff person didn't think he needed to be there. The nursing home is way more expensive, but would be covered by Medicaid once they spent their money down, so they could do it. I assume he would qualify.

Regularly -- it's that he gets up many times in the night, and has started to pee on the floor a couple of times. Theoretically they could make the apartment back into a 2-bed and sleep separately with a health aide in the room with my father, but how terrible does that sound? (To me, terrible.)

Sounds terrible to me too.

Maybe they could work out something where your folks still share a room but the attendant is just outside or has a monitor? Then when he gets up s/he can deal with him?

This is all so hard. I'm so sorry.

I hope you all can figure out a good solution, Jesse.

As you may have guessed from earlier, I did not really enjoy today, but at least now I know what SMH means!

I also had a good Charlie moment this morning, and there aren't any rapey birds interrupting my hammock time, and I have a Fresca to drink, so all in all I am going to call it a win

Maybe they could work out something where your folks still share a room but the attendant is just outside or has a monitor?

I think she would still wake up though? I don't know.

His need of care will only increase, so a nursing home, while seeming like a big step, fits in the continuum. I really like this model: [link] (which happens to be just across the street from me.) Especially since it is on a campus with senior apartments, so a transition from independent living to more skilled care could be made much more seamless.

I keep thinking I need to contact them and see if they'd be interested in a volunteer. Maybe even bring Loki in as a therapy cat;)

I keep telling my parents that the minute they start ever even *thinking* that they need to be closer/need help, we really ought to see about putting them on the waitlists for whichever is appropriate. Even if I suspect my SIL would make them move in with them first. And I can't see them ever wanting to leave Cruces.

His need of care will only increase, so a nursing home, while seeming like a big step, fits in the continuum.

Yeah, we both think that, too. And the nice place is nice -- doesn't feel like a hospital, according to my mother. So that may be the answer.

Pinterest is interesting. My most commonly repinned picture is one of a typical 12x12 dorm room at my alma mater. I guess design ideas for dorm rooms are a big thing.