The biggest problem seems to be getting homework done, which puts the onus back on me.
Not just you; CJ needs to work with you to figure out what kind of structure/scenario works best for him.
He doesn't seem to need more time for tests. Seatting preference and help with organization are the big things. I'm also wondering, now, if I can get the teacher to send me the assigned homework so I can follow up with CJ on the stuff that is supposed to happen here.
Those all sound like pretty common things that can help (seating, organization, you getting info on homework). I think it's really good (believe it or not) that this has become an issue now, because if he can get some accomodations in place now, it'll help him tremendously in college.
Is there a CHADD chapter near you? If there is, you might want to check them out. I know they've been helpful to a lot of people who come to ours.
I've never been diagnosed ADD, mostly because I've never gone to a doctor who could, but I'm pretty sure I am. I don't think ADD was even a recognized Thing when I was a kid.
Tim didn't actually get formally tested/evaluated until last year (SPOILER: he has ADD!), even though his doctor diagnosed him years ago with ADD and prescribed meds based on his self-reported symptoms. Tim is almost 48, and when he was a kid, it wasn't recognized as a Thing. He was just labelled as lazy and stupid. Which breaks my heart for poor wee Tim.
You and me both, Zen (although I did have a doctor prescribe me Adderall, she felt like I didn't need to be tested - does that count as a diagnosis?) Anyway, I need to remind myself of this all the time, that it isn't a character flaw, or just that I am not trying hard enough (which is what I was told all my life "we know you can do this if you just try", hard to unlearn that). Tim's description/explanation is really good.
ETA: when I was a kid it was just starting to be a Thing, but definitely not a thing girls had. My mom cut out an article describing how ADHD presents differently in girls when I was in my 20s, but even then it was supposed to be something you grew out of, so she was like "in case you have kids, be ready for them to have this because you totally did". It wasn't until sometime in the last decade I realized that all that is not, in fact, just me failing for no apparent reason to manage what everyone else appears to do easily, but a continuing condition that has, wonder of wonders, treatments!
The person who wrote this stupid crap I'm editing uses "ruff" instead of "rough". I'm cultivating an active dislike.
Oh, I meant irritated at being asked to announce my comings and goings.
Oh, good! Now I feel less weird that I don't feel obligated to communicate my whereabouts unless you're my mom or my significant other.
I mean, if my roommate is nearby when I'm leaving I'll say goodbye. I'm not a total jerk.
which is what I was told all my life "we know you can do this if you just try", hard to unlearn that
I am so guilty of this. I need to do some ADHD research so I can fix the way I talk about this. I know it guts CJ cause he is obviously a smart kid, he just needs his "glasses" in whatever form that takes. I really like that description.
The person who wrote this stupid crap I'm editing uses "ruff" instead of "rough".
WTF. Is the person's favorite song also Tuff Enuff by The Fabulous Thunderbirds?
Is the person secretly a dog?
I suspect the person is not-so-secretly a crap writer and should not have been asked to document this thing. There's also "differently" and "differentially", and I can't tell if it's supposed to be the same word each time it's used.
The previous section was written by someone who was much more coherent, but tended to use "e.g." at the end of almost every freaking sentence, e.g., like this.
Dogs are notoriously bad spellers.
