My stepmonster would totally do that(in fact, if you read back, you might find how my brother's graduation announcement from college became all about her and how I, mannerless heathen, purposely left her name off.) Note: was following a template that didn't have four parents, as favor to other set--I'm still not sure that everyone vaguely parental needed to be included, but if they did, honest mistake. No, she called me up and screamed at me. Then she called Bro up and screamed at him, too. But he was at work, and he has the magic penis, so when he told her to shut up she did. It's awful to say, but my life's gotten easier since cancer saps her energy.

Note: was following a template that didn't have four parents, as favor to other set--I'm still not sure that everyone vaguely parental needed to be included, but if they did, honest mistake.

That was a bit of a fraught issue with our wedding invitation; on Tim's side, his mother is dead, and on my side are cordial-on-the-surface-but-acrimonious-underneath divorced parents, including a stepdad. And listing my parents (birth and step-) in any sort of order would imply (in my dad's mind) that one of them contributed more financially, etc., etc.

We ended up picking a design that had room for one line at the top to list the parents, where, because of the way the text boxes were placed, there was room for "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" and "Mr. and Mrs. Jones", which we just changed to "The Family of the Bride" and "The Family of the Groom" and then braced ourselves for wailing and gnashing of teeth that someone deserved to be listed by name on the invitation.

Surprisingly, everyone was cool with it. (They didn't get input on the invitation; we just designed them and sent them out and held our breath.)

But DAMN, every little everything is such a big damn deal. Especially when, like with a college graduation, it's NOT ACTUALLY ABOUT YOU, oh parental units or parent-like units.

At the vet. He has a fever , so I just dr googled. It is not über high. They are running test. It could be nothing or a reaction to the last chemo drug or an infection . Oddly I am less worried. And now dh is headed home. He should have stayed home because he was sick all weekend

(beth) I hope both Nathaniel and DH improve quickly.

Beverly!! Good to see you always.

"The Family of the Bride" and "The Family of the Groom"

Awesome plan! I can't even imagine going through that stuff or giving my kids a hard time about such choices. Chances are at their ages they still think we suck as parents but I hope by the time they are 30 they will have a better impression.

Glad to hear from you, Bev.

Fingers crossed for good results, beth.

Thanks, Nora. I will give that a try before deciding that I just have generalized ick.

Much ~ma to Nathaniel, Beth.

That's why, if I meet anyone who ever wants to, we're totally eloping or something. Because just graduating opened up all of these wounds and shit, and that's without a partner and their family and...stuff like you said, Tep.(Also, I'm totally awful at bridey details and would have a beautiful, accessible venue with vegetarian courses and everything, but, like, no forks. As I wander about going "Seems like I forgot something.")

We spent all day shopping, but we finally bought an oven. Black, not glass top (no stores will insure the glass top against accidental damage, and I wasn't willing to take the chance), and it has a convection oven setting. We bought it at the Sears outlet. It was a return with a few minor scratches but otherwise perfect, and it still comes with the one year warranty. So, if something was wrong with it, we wouldn't be stuck with it.

yay for new oven.

DH is sleeping in the big chair , Nathaniel has decided to sleep in his cat carrier. Jonathan wonders why Nathaniel won't play and I got some food.

things are at an equilibrium for the moment