situations where kids were excluding other kids but not being pervasively aggressive or targeting them.
That's the distinction I was trying to make in Franny's case. She wasn't targeted, and she was never told that this thing or that thing about her was bad, but she was often the one who was on the outside.
I think I am also resistant to calling it bullying because the behaviors are almost unconscious. They don't realize what they are doing, even when called on it. It's almost like kids have to learn to be respectful and considerate of others, being an asshole from time to time comes naturally.
It's almost like kids have to learn to be respectful and considerate of others, being an asshole from time to time comes naturally.
I think empathy develops late. Some kids have it earlier (Matilda does) but generally most kids don't have a sense of other kids suffering until they've suffered themselves. It's another kind of privilege in a way - because you don't see it. You take your status for granted and don't think about people being excluded.
I'm at the math conference now. I have coffee and a thing that calls itself a bagel. (It is not. It is a roll.) I've got one interview today and one tomorrow.
~ma, Hil! Sorry about the crap bagel!
Interview~ma Hil.
I'm in the waiting room. I don't think they gave me enough Valium.
Thinking of you, sj. It will be okay!
Lots of ~ma headed your way, sj.
I'm at the math conference now. I have coffee and a thing that calls itself a bagel. (It is not. It is a roll.)
I bet its even crap for a roll.
Hang in there, sj!
The procedure didn't work. I have to decide if I want to try it in the office or the hospital next month. If I took 3 Advil at 9:30, when can I take more?
