bonny, I wish a had an advice. Both sides seem to have way too much attitude and opinions on what Should Be Done and ignoring your wishes and what you're willing to do. I'm sorry, it sucks.

Connie, as smart buffistas said, you're absolutely not being a bitch. And it's a good idea, thinking how to spend minimal time with each other as possible. Prevention technique, sure, but you really don't have to deal with more Issues right now.

Connie, I'm sorry for all the grief. Vent here - say all the awful things you think, all the terrible things that you can't let out in person. Pour it out here and maybe it'll make it easier to deal with his daughter. Delete later if you want to, but at least use the board to release whatever tension would lead to something unforgiveable in person.

Connie, adding my voice to the "not a bitch" crowd. If I may make a suggestion -- this is about your husband. Daughter is secondary, and anything that she is going through is secondary to what your husband is going through. And if she needs rough treatment (the verbal equivalent of a slap in the face) to see that, so be it.

I think I figured out why my thyroid medication is making me sick. There is lactose in it. So, I have been taking a pill with lactose first thing in the morning on an empty stomach. No wonder I have felt so awful. It looks like there are alternatives without lactose. Hopefully my doctor will be able to prescribe one of them.

Final chapter on the rose saga...All four plants are totally chopped down.

There were two 4 foot high mounds of thorns but someone came by in a truck and took them away.

I made a joke to my landlord about getting free yard care. It was too soon.

Still, it's over and my landlord is waffling on finding out who it was. He, rightfully, is concerned about further shenanigans.

I'm moving on.

Oh wow, that's surprising it'd have that in it, sj! But very good catch!

Ugh, I went to the doctor this morning and mostly it was very good--it was a new doctor, as my old one left, and luckily, she seemed really awesome, so that's good. (Once I went there and took any old doctor because I was sick and needed an appointment, and I really disliked her). But then they were taking a whole bunch of blood, and the phlebotomist looked at both my arms, looked some more, kept poking with her finger, signed a lot, and finally I offered my hands. She did some more looking/poking/sighing, got a hot pad for my hand and started to draw from there (ow!)...and then it ran dry halfway through, so she got someone else, who stuck my arm, and then THAT ran dry! They only got a few drops in the last tube, so they may not be able to do some of it, but now I'm scared to go back. :)

Oh wow, that's surprising it'd have that in it, sj! But very good catch!

So many pills do, but they're usually capsules, which this isn't. My reaction probably wouldn't have been so severe, if I had been able to eat something with the pill.

What everyone said, Connie. Also, this? "I think she thinks Lifetime movies are a good model of behavior" made me laugh and shudder in equal measure. I hope it goes better than you think it will, but more importantly that you can find some time to yourself to deal in your own way.

Jeez, sj, I'm glad you figured it out.

bonny, that fish is cray. Are there any more plants she could destroy?

I need to go run errands, but am procrastinating. I swear I'm at the bank at 4:45 every Friday. I also need to go by Buffalo Exchange and see if I can sell some clothes. With the holidays and being gone and having to stop a job before we started it (don't ask) shit is getting pretty tight. I don't need loans or gifts, just venting. I'm getting tired of this rollercoaster, and may be looking for something more stable soon. My boss is a very nice man, and a horrible business owner.

The two options that don't have lactose are both back ordered at my pharmacy. So I can either call and try to find a pharmacy that does have one or I can take a lactaid pill with my current perscription and hope to not get sick.

Connie, adding my voice to the "not a bitch" crowd. If I may make a suggestion -- this is about your husband. Daughter is secondary, and anything that she is going through is secondary to what your husband is going through. And if she needs rough treatment (the verbal equivalent of a slap in the face) to see that, so be it.

I don't know that a verbal slap in the face will, given what's been said regarding the background, improve the situation.

It's probable that the best option is just the flat-out statement that, right now, while there's a lot of history that doesn't lend itself well to peace in our time, the focus for everyone needs to be on the day-to-day reality of the situation, and move forward as best they can, while acknowledging that doing so doesn't mean the past didn't happen, just that it's not what's important for the now.