Even if he understood everything perfectly, his condition is draining more than just him. And right now? Yeah, I think taking a caregiver break (as opposed to a daughter break) is probably self defense for you, and for your relationship with him.
I like money better than people. People can so rarely be exchanged for goods and/or services!
Willow ,'Showtime'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
§ ita § - Jun 10, 2013 9:44:16 am PDT #788 of 30002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Dana - Jun 10, 2013 9:47:34 am PDT #789 of 30002
I'm terrifically busy with my ennui.
It's a shame he doesn't understand the amazing resource he has in you. My grandmother was the same way -- she wouldn't do anything my mom or uncle told her, but if a doctor said it, it was suddenly magic.
Steph L. - Jun 10, 2013 9:52:50 am PDT #790 of 30002
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
It's just that I keep worrying that what if my advice could prevent physical harm from happening (or continuing)? And then I tell myself he's an adult and can decide whose advice he wants to give credence to. And then I tell myself that his medical literacy isn't exactly awesome, and he does have a complex bunch of conditions. And then I tell myself that I can't make him do anything, because he's an adult with his own agency.
So that's what it comes down to. I dropped some knowledge on him, he can decide what to do with it. I hate like hell to see him so debilitated, but I can't *make* him do anything.
Beverly - Jun 10, 2013 10:49:21 am PDT #791 of 30002
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.
A break is a darn good thing, Teppy, when you need it. The only suggestion I would have is--and only if you have boatloads of time to spend on it--conference with his doctor, find out for yourself, and possibly ask the doctor to relay info to Dad in a more explicit, understandable way.
Or, you know, not. You've got a lot of fraught on your plate already right now. Being a daughter and not an advisor is a sane choice.
beth b - Jun 10, 2013 4:49:58 pm PDT #792 of 30002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
Good luck, Teppy. I hope you can take a break . I find it difficult to keep my mouth shut, but I wish you a better zipper than I have
sj - Jun 10, 2013 7:58:42 pm PDT #793 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I can't sleep again because every time I try to I can't stop coughing. Someone distract me from the temptation to correct ignorant relatives on Facebook.
WindSparrow - Jun 10, 2013 8:15:49 pm PDT #794 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
All I have for you is that I have succeeded in creeping myself out by reading various theories on where Amelia Earhardt went down, and decided that the cure for that was to read about efforts to locate the camera Mallory and Irvine had with them on Everest.... yeah. Not helping.
Sean K - Jun 10, 2013 8:29:37 pm PDT #795 of 30002
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
I have a pair of nasty blisters on my feet, from walking around too long in shoes with no socks today. Sometimes, I am not the brightest bulb in the box.
DavidS - Jun 10, 2013 8:47:46 pm PDT #796 of 30002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I have a pair of nasty blisters on my feet, from walking around too long in shoes with no socks today. Sometimes, I am not the brightest bulb in the box.
As I've told Emmett many time (because he's had to hear it many times): "Pain is the great teacher."
brenda m - Jun 11, 2013 3:20:04 am PDT #797 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I have a pair of nasty blisters on my feet, from walking around too long in shoes with no socks today. Sometimes, I am not the brightest bulb in the box.
I rubbed a spot on my toe raw because I wore new shoes out and didn't notice there was still a cardboard insert inside them. So, not the dimmest either.