"What a great idea, honey! We should have a kid! How did we never think of that?!?!?!"

This would probably be my standard issue reply. I'd go on and on. Thanking them. Hugging them. Telling everyone else. Just never letting the fuck up...

I am certainly not a mental health monolith, but my decision not to have kids is one I'm really, really sure of. Not only because I don't want the impact on my life, but because I would suck at it, and kids don't deserve that.

I'm really, really sure of it. But that doesn't mean there aren't times that I still think I'm Doing It Wrong according to most sources. There's a difference between questioning my choice (I don't) and feeling like I'm being judged as Doing It Wrong. Even though I'm sure of my choice, sometimes it sucks to feel like I'm Doing It Wrong.

And that's on me; don't get me wrong. I own the fact that it bothers me. I wish it didn't, but sometimes it does.

I am certainly not a mental health monolith,

Personally, I think of you as Not!Insane.

Personally, I think of you as Not!Insane.

I've got it framed and everything!

Wait, no. I am not Homer Simpson.

Questions, questions, questions.

After a while I wanted to start telling people who asked when Daniel and I are getting married, "We postpone the wedding six months every time someone asks." In fact I only worked up the nerve to say it out loud to my BFF, who has better right to ask than many. We had a good laugh over it.

and a damn good kisser, too.

::blush::

------ Personally, I think the notion of couples NOT reproducing is survival of the species. If an animal looks around and doesn't see enough resources for offspring, they are less likely to reproduce. Clearly, we humans are starting to over populate the earth. Some areas more than others. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids.

(Mind you, this is coming from the perpetually single guy, so it might be a bit of sour grapes syndrome. I also have genetic disease, and don't want to pass those along).

I have never been more grateful for a decision in my life than to put off having kids until we were better situated, despite everyone saying "God will provide." The idea of having to deal with kids and what kids need through all this makes my brain break. I have been called selfish, and I'll own that all day long.

I'd love to have kids, but not alone, and I'm getting older, so...yeah.

Someone convince me in about 3 hours that I really DO want to go to the new yoga place down the block and check it out/take a class. Even if it will probably be full of new year's resolutions (also WTF why do they only have 3 classes on Sat and 3 on Sun??).

I would have loved to have one child, but it's not in the cards. I'm lucky that I don't face the question too often. It's very painful for me.

Another reason why it's a shitty thing to hound people about.