The Matrimonial Checklist:
"When are you getting engaged?"
"When are you getting married?"
"When are you having kids?"
"When are you having another kid?"
"When are you having grandkids?"
there's always a question.
Mal: If anyone gets nosy, just, you know... shoot 'em. Zoe: Shoot 'em? Mal: Politely.
'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Connie Neil - Jan 04, 2014 8:03:51 pm PST #7795 of 30002
brillig
Atropa - Jan 04, 2014 8:39:00 pm PST #7796 of 30002
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Beverly, that's a great idea for cards! I need to make myself a note about what size of frame I need to look for at thrift stores, because I've got a hoard of postcards and gothy note cards I want to keep and display.
Cass - Jan 04, 2014 9:07:59 pm PST #7797 of 30002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
as if it were just the culturally expected response.
Ding!
Scrappy - Jan 04, 2014 9:31:12 pm PST #7798 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
My MiL is awful in that way. It was about 20 minutes after my BiL's wedding before she started asking his wife when they were having kids. However, she get her comeuppance from her own daughter, who responded to her mother's "when can we expect grandkids" request at a family brunch by saying, "Mom, I refused to marry Dave unless he got a vasectomy, so don't look at me for grandchildren."
omnis_audis - Jan 04, 2014 10:22:24 pm PST #7799 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
Even if you aren't married/engaged, family asks stupid questions.
- Got a girlfriend yet?
- Why don't you have a girlfriend yet?
- Are you gay?
- Why don't you go to bars, and meet some girls?
- If you don't like bars, you could meet girls at coffee shops, why not go there?
- You don't have to drink coffee at a coffee shop
Yeah, there are more, but that's the gist. The words "shy" and "introverted" seem to be words they never learned.
Thank you o_a. I have a feeling you have experience with tech boneyards.When I was packing (after 7 years in one apartment) for my move to Texas, I filled an entire pick up truck with e-waste and cables. Got about $100. So yeah, a little bit of experience with it. Current job doesn't not allow throwing out old equipment. Gotta love state jobs. All those old, expensive, audio gear are "State Assets". Too bad most aren't worth a damn anymore. But boy howdy do they take up space!
Shir - Jan 04, 2014 10:34:12 pm PST #7800 of 30002
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".
All this work will not show much difference in the "look what I did".
What are you blabbering about, love? That's a hell lot of work! Go you!
Wanted to punch so hard. So so hard.
Amazed you didn't do that. For realz.
there's always a question.
And sometimes, violence just might be the answer. (Well, OK, I just usually answer nosy relative along the lines of "nope, not yet. And how was your recent divorce?").
omnis_audis - Jan 04, 2014 10:42:59 pm PST #7801 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
"nope, not yet. And how was your recent divorce?"Ha! That's a good one. Gotta remember that one. Too bad my sister isn't divorced (god, did I just say that??!?!!) Well, to be fair, she is the worst offender with stupid love life questions.
Zenkitty - Jan 05, 2014 6:28:15 am PST #7802 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
(Well, OK, I just usually answer nosy relative along the lines of "nope, not yet. And how was your recent divorce?"
snort hahahha!
shy and introverted
and a damn good kisser, too.
Very few people in my family have ever asked me the usual "when are you getting married/having kids" questions, only people who didn't know me. Those who did know me, I guess they figured I was so "sullen" and withdrawn, no man would ever marry me anyway. My mom, OTOH, I think she totally understood; she never pushed me to do either one. I think if she had had her way about it, she'd never have married or had kids either.
Steph L. - Jan 05, 2014 6:48:33 am PST #7803 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
Babies Aunt is the first person who's asked us if we're going to have kids. My assumption is that most people who know us (friends and family) have a general idea of our ages, and figure it isn't going to happen. (Or they're polite enough to not enquire about shit that isn't any of their business.)
And, honestly, being asked, ONE TIME, if we're going to have kids is fine. I know it's something that people are curious about, or they're just making conversation, or whatever. That's fine, even if I personally think it's none of their business.
If Babies Aunt had just asked us "Are you going to have kids," and let it go when we said no, I wouldn't be neck-punchingly annoyed with her. But god DAMN did she turn it into a crusade, and that is really rude.
And, of course, I'm sensitive because it makes me feel like I'm wired wrong because I am not maternal and don't want kids. Most days, I'm totally fine with it. But I am not a mental health monolith who can always say Fuck What Society Says I Am Me God Damn It And All My Choices Are Always Right. Sometimes I feel like I am SO doing it wrong because I don't want kids. And so Babies Aunt managed to push that button.
sj - Jan 05, 2014 6:51:42 am PST #7804 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
"nope, not yet. And how was your recent divorce?"
Love!
If Babies Aunt had just asked us "Are you going to have kids," and let it go when we said no, I wouldn't be neck-punchingly annoyed with her. But god DAMN did she turn it into a crusade, and that is really rude.
Very true. I've been lucky in that most relatives who don't know we're trying to have a baby haven't asked when we're going to have a baby. Maybe they figure we've been together so long that it isn't going to happen.