I have to put calls on hold and the caller doesn't really get an option. I'm not saying "May I place you on hold?" it's "blah blah, please hold" and they go directly on hold.

I technically ask people but they don't really get a choice. Only once has someone actually just barreled ahead talking. Most people just say, "yes, ma'am" and wait contentedly. Fucking love that part of the military.

And only 2% of the time do I throw people on hold like it's the naughty step.

Sometimes I hate Facebook because it lets me know exactly how much I'm being excluded from events and suchlike.

Ugh, I am feeling really sorry for myself today. I don't feel great either, plus... stupid holidays, that's never a good combination.

Fred, I'm so sorry about sweet Arthur.

Facebook clued me in to the fact that my beloved Niecelet went to my sister's place for Thanksgiving from college in Alaska. I'm either not a fan of Facebook or family. Since I have to get through December, I am blaming Facebook for now.

tep,

would this help your relative?

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Pushover's lament: I want to go to bed, but the cats are all curled up on me and I don't want to disturb them!

Teppy, I vote you explain to your aunt that the method she used is for obscenity and that's she's now flagged you with facebook as, basically, peddling porn. That they will be watching you carefully now. Lay it on thick and guilt the hell out of her.

Then tell her that, in the future, you'll be certain to not tag her in any photos so that she can make the decision herself if people she knows outside the family will see her in a family photo. Just ignore any assertion on her part that she has any say in your wedding photos.

Basically? I advocate a campaign of guilt and passive aggression. It's the holidays, after all.

tacklehugs Trudy

Tim's opinion, and my mom (Aunt's sister) agrees with it, is that my aunt didn't understand what she was clicking. I can kind of see that -- she does describe herself as "technologically ignorant" -- but I still think she had some idea of what she was doing. Because untagging yourself and asking FB to remove a picture are 2 separate actions. You can't do both at the same time accidentally. You have to choose to untag and then go back and ask FB to remove a picture.

I'm taking the path of least resistance, though, and assuming she didn't know what she was clicking, and ignoring the whole thing. Not removing the picture, not engaging with her. If she contacts me again about it, then we'll have to have a discussion.

I can see a technologically ignorant person maybe continuing to click around and thinking "Oh, I should do this too".

I can see where she might think she was asking you to remove the picture. I still like Trudy's plan!