Sir? I'd like you to take the helm, please. I need this man to tear all my clothes off.

Zoe ,'Serenity'


Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Cass - Dec 07, 2013 12:43:20 pm PST #6951 of 30002
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.

Stressing tensing yesterday, Sean?

Just got one of my trees restaked in the midst of this wind "advisory" and had to brush my teeth twice to get the grit out. I wasn't even the one doing the work. Hate wind.


Kate P. - Dec 07, 2013 5:24:41 pm PST #6952 of 30002
That's the pain / That cuts a straight line down through the heart / We call it love

Holy cow, you guys. I'm sorry so many of you are having such a rough time. Laura, I'm glad to hear that you have someone you trust to talk to, and that he was reassuring. Connie, I'm so sorry, and I echo what everyone else is saying: I hope you always feel free to say whatever you need to here, whatever you can't say anywhere else.

And Sean, man, I feel for you. That's such a shitty position to be in, between the roommate, the job search, and the brain weasels. I'm crossing my fingers that something good is just around the corner for you. You are smart, strong, dedicated, and really good at what you do, even if the jobs in your field aren't opening up for you right now.

One thing that occurs to me, and please disregard entirely if this isn't helpful: In the midst of feeling so down, when your brain weasels are being their most weaselly, would it help to try shifting your focus to someone or something else for a while? Maybe try to find a way to do something good or kind for someone else, if you can. Help a neighbor, volunteer somewhere, something like that. Something that would get you out of the house, give you some purpose, and remind you that you are a person of worth, that you belong here, that your presence in the world is a valuable thing. I know it's not always easy to remember that, but I hope you do. Because it's true.


Liese S. - Dec 07, 2013 5:56:39 pm PST #6953 of 30002
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

So sorry, Connie.

Yikes, Laura.

Hang in there, Sean.

Toughies, all of them.


beekaytee - Dec 07, 2013 6:40:06 pm PST #6954 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant

Warm thoughts and healing wishes of everybody!

I need some critiquing, please.

I'm working on creating a web show and, today, I ventured to the cosmetics counter to try and get a decent 'look.'

The resulting video is for testing purposes only...and contains a few terrible edits and a bizarre cameo from a certain someone you might recognize.

If you have 3 minutes or less, could you please answer the following questions about this video on youtube?

  • Does the makeup work? If not, is it too pale, or are there other issues?
  • is the cropping right? Should there be less white space at the top?
  • should the frame be lower?
  • how is the sound?
  • are the earrings distracting?
  • is the eye contact good?

I have to confess, I raised the frame above the chest because I'm huge right now and I really want people to focus more on my eyes and voice.

Eventually, I plan to have a professional intro and end bumper with theme music and all, but right now, I'm just testing the equipment.

I'd be SO grateful for any input. Rather than junk up the thread, my profile addy is good, if you'd rather respond there.

Many thanks!


beekaytee - Dec 07, 2013 6:49:34 pm PST #6955 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant

Oh! And, any thoughts on the corresponding website would be appreciated as well.

It's all pretty new and higgeldy piggeldy, but I'm working on it!


Beverly - Dec 07, 2013 9:35:39 pm PST #6956 of 30002
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

All good thoughts for Laura, Connie and her hubby, and Sean. Thinking of you.


Shir - Dec 08, 2013 2:26:23 am PST #6957 of 30002
"And that's why God Almighty gave us fire insurance and the public defender".

Connie and husband, I'm so sorry. Best of ~ma to get through this.

Laura, my God. How scary. I'm happy for the good news.

{{{Sean}}} I'm sorry.

Rage and swear and panic all you need to to get through it.

This. So much. Forgot how smart this place is.

God, Connie, I remember that so well from my mom.

And you can put my mother in that club as well. Conversations face-to-face or over the phone won't end unless I promise I'm OK and had a good day.


Calli - Dec 08, 2013 2:35:47 am PST #6958 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs

Bonny, I can't speak to makeup and video, 'cause that's so not my wheelhouse. But I do website work for a living. I think your website's basic design is sound--clean, nice color choices, and informative. But there are several areas where important-looking text show up on top of your photo, and that makes it very hard to read. I'm viewing this in Safari, on my iPad. Tablets are an increasingly large segment of website page views, though, so even if it isn't displaying that way on laptops/desktop computers, I'd still recommend addressing the issue.


beekaytee - Dec 08, 2013 5:01:50 am PST #6959 of 30002
Compassionately intolerant

Calli, that is super helpful. Thank you.

I think the design product (website builder, through godaddy)has a feature for saving to devices. I haven't figured it out yet.

I wonder if I ought to have done it in wordpress, which I think is optimized for that purpose.

I'd hate to try and build the site all over again...much less try and wade through the cabillion wordpress templates to find a similar one.

But, you are right...I need to figure this out as I really can't afford to leave anyone out!


sj - Dec 08, 2013 6:43:07 am PST #6960 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

Yikes, too much badness for my Bitches.

{{{Sean}}} I'm so sorry. I hope you are able to find something and soon. I understand how hard it must be to have to go on interviews and appear confident when you're in that state of mind.

Laura, I'm so glad you have a neurologist who you can work with that you trust, and tons of no-more-seziure~ma to you.

Connie tons of ~ma to you and your DH. I'm so sorry that he has to constantly deal with these health problems. It must be so exhausting for the both of you.