Now the good thing...the folks on my facebook page have seen this video by Shawn Achor, a Harvard neuro-scientist speaking about simple ways to increase your day to day happiness.

I share it now because, despite it's 12 minute length, I've seen it a half dozen times and crack up more with each viewing. He's a hoot!

You can have sympathy for her dog, but fuck her. Fuck reaching out to her. Hell no. She's continuing to manipulate you, and you deserve to give it zero attention. Take care of YOU.

Aw. Thanks Steph. I know you are right but my stomach is roiling. Bartleby _loved_ Pony and so do I. My eyes are stinging with tears wanting to do something for her. But I can't imagine that turning out even remotely well and I'm sick about it.

She is clearly just an awful, awful person. Jesus. I can't even. Lord knows I understand being an inadvertent asshole, but the levels of deliberate assholery this woman displays is just mind-boggling.

Some people are just gross. I'm sorry.

My eyes are stinging with tears wanting to do something for her. But I can't imagine that turning out even remotely well and I'm sick about it.

I'm sorry that this is upsetting for you. You're a wonderfully compassionate, loving person, and it sucks that Pony has an injury. Poor pooch. I think that if you send loving thoughts to him, that will be enough. You don't need to bring more upset upon yourself by dealing with his manipulative, crappy human.

What possible answer could you get from reachinnout about the dogs injury that would help? None. It's much MUCH more likely shell tell you some tale of woe that is awful and horrible and upsets you even further. Don't do it.

some tale of woe that is awful and horrible and upsets you even further.

I'm certain this would be the only other outcome beyond my maybe offering some comfort to Pony. But, truth to tell, she gets so excited when she sees me, she might actually hurt herself.

OK. I'm going to do whatever it takes to put this out of my mind. It's a bit of a struggle.

bonny, you have already gotten good advice here, so I'll just say, what they said.

They tea I bought at tevana before I realized how ridiculously expensive it was, is amazingly delicious. Luckily, I have found it on uptontea for less than half the price, so I can get more without the ridiculous price.

ION, I do not want to go to the dentist today, so I am trying instead to focus on the fact that I get to meet H & G for sandwiches after I'm done instead.

Totally get feeling bad for Pony, and it's a shame you can't express that to her. But I'd really encourage you to examine the urge to "do something for" ex-friend. That really took me aback. It's not on you to fix her or her problems.

... Bartleby _loved_ Pony and so do I. My eyes are stinging with tears wanting to do something for her...

Here is what you do for Pony: You let us know about her, so we send her tons of healing~ma.

Here is what else you do for Pony: You do whatever you need to, to take care of yourself. Pony loves you, she wants you to be happy and healthy. She may not understand why your happiness and health mean you can't be in her life now, but I don't think she has to understand.

POny's person knows damn well what Pony's situation is doing to you. She's taking advantage of both you and the pooch.