Ugh. I have a thing I need to put somewhere...and then I'll follow up with a good thing.

If you are bored to tears by the dog bite saga, feel free to skippity-do-da.

So, I've felt pretty fortunate that I have not run into the former friend after sending my final email to her some weeks ago. I saw her at a distance once and was able to change course. It felt pretty good that I spent no time ruminating. I just said, "Plot Twist" and carried on.

This morning, I was in the front yard with Cagney and his new girlfriend. (Her name is Earlene Sue and her daddies put a double strand of pearls on her at the weekend. She's gorgeous and we see her twice a day.)

I have a very early client on the first Thursday of each month, so it was at time when I am not normally out.

I glance across the street to see the top of former friend's head, clearly walking her dogs. I just turned around and leaned on the fence, not wanting to catch her eye.

Suddenly, the former friend and her older dog, who is a special favorite of mine, are in my peripheral vision. They have CROSSED to my driveway and are meandering down my side of the block...for no other reason than the dog is in a full cast up to her hip on her right rear leg.

This action was deliberate. The ff knows how much I love that dog...I even mentioned it specifically in my final email...so she crossed so that I could see the cast and then dawdled so I would be sure to see the limp and whatever.

Now, my heart is aching for Pony and I'm furious with this manipulative woman all over again.

If I don't reach out over what is clearly a serious accident/injury, I'm a heartless bitch. If I do I'm certain ff will use it as an excuse for why she hasn't followed through on her promise to help with my medical bill...or whatever.

I could just scream.

If I don't reach out over what is clearly a serious accident/injury, I'm a heartless bitch.

No, you are NOT. Fuck her. Her disregard for your injury pretty much proved who the heartless bitch is, and, again, it's NOT you.

You can have sympathy for her dog, but fuck her. Fuck reaching out to her. Hell no. She's continuing to manipulate you, and you deserve to give it zero attention. Take care of YOU.

Now the good thing...the folks on my facebook page have seen this video by Shawn Achor, a Harvard neuro-scientist speaking about simple ways to increase your day to day happiness.

I share it now because, despite it's 12 minute length, I've seen it a half dozen times and crack up more with each viewing. He's a hoot!

You can have sympathy for her dog, but fuck her. Fuck reaching out to her. Hell no. She's continuing to manipulate you, and you deserve to give it zero attention. Take care of YOU.

Aw. Thanks Steph. I know you are right but my stomach is roiling. Bartleby _loved_ Pony and so do I. My eyes are stinging with tears wanting to do something for her. But I can't imagine that turning out even remotely well and I'm sick about it.

She is clearly just an awful, awful person. Jesus. I can't even. Lord knows I understand being an inadvertent asshole, but the levels of deliberate assholery this woman displays is just mind-boggling.

Some people are just gross. I'm sorry.

My eyes are stinging with tears wanting to do something for her. But I can't imagine that turning out even remotely well and I'm sick about it.

I'm sorry that this is upsetting for you. You're a wonderfully compassionate, loving person, and it sucks that Pony has an injury. Poor pooch. I think that if you send loving thoughts to him, that will be enough. You don't need to bring more upset upon yourself by dealing with his manipulative, crappy human.

What possible answer could you get from reachinnout about the dogs injury that would help? None. It's much MUCH more likely shell tell you some tale of woe that is awful and horrible and upsets you even further. Don't do it.

some tale of woe that is awful and horrible and upsets you even further.

I'm certain this would be the only other outcome beyond my maybe offering some comfort to Pony. But, truth to tell, she gets so excited when she sees me, she might actually hurt herself.

OK. I'm going to do whatever it takes to put this out of my mind. It's a bit of a struggle.

bonny, you have already gotten good advice here, so I'll just say, what they said.

They tea I bought at tevana before I realized how ridiculously expensive it was, is amazingly delicious. Luckily, I have found it on uptontea for less than half the price, so I can get more without the ridiculous price.

ION, I do not want to go to the dentist today, so I am trying instead to focus on the fact that I get to meet H & G for sandwiches after I'm done instead.

Totally get feeling bad for Pony, and it's a shame you can't express that to her. But I'd really encourage you to examine the urge to "do something for" ex-friend. That really took me aback. It's not on you to fix her or her problems.