Naw, it's pretty transphobic, but with that ugly veneer of plausible deniability. Fuck them.

The slightly extra disheartening part is that the OP is a WoC and she got defensive and doubled down and accused those of us calling her out of selective outrage (not caring about black people) and used the entire board of CallOut Defense Bingo: it's just a joke, I don't see anything [transphobic] about it, if you see it you are the one with the problem, why didn't you ask me what I meant when I posted about it, etc. Plus mods not giving a shit except to eventually shut down comments, and several other black women (and some white ones) circling the wagons. I wasn't the only one calling it out, there were at least a half-dozen other folks, too.

I mean, I shouldn't hold members of other marginalized groups to a higher standard, but it's still disheartening. Also, I guess I can take a kind of bitter satisfaction in the proof that *not* getting defensive is really fucking hard and goes against our self-protective instincts as humans.

I'm sorry. That blows. I wish the universe would cut you a break.

Thanks. Me too. Sucks to feel like I'm going to be broke and lonely forever, and to have a little voice telling me maybe both those things are my fault.

{{{smonster}}} You are right about the post. I wish commenting hadn't been turned off; I got there too late to give you any backup.

I hope you allow yourself a little grace. It's a lot to deal with all at once.

The guy sitting next to me at this conference is snoring. He's my role model now.

I'll wake him if he starts to drool on his tie. Maybe.

I'll wake him if he starts to drool on his tie. Maybe.

Well, not before you take a picture or video, right?

I lost 7 lbs with my whole30. It wasn't really the main point of doing it, but it was a nice perk.

I mean, I shouldn't hold members of other marginalized groups to a higher standard, but it's still disheartening. Also, I guess I can take a kind of bitter satisfaction in the proof that *not* getting defensive is really fucking hard and goes against our self-protective instincts as humans.

Yeah, I mean, it's impossible to actually say that last part in most SJ circles, but...

It was transphobic. And transphobic at the same time as Day of Visibility. SO.

It was transphobic.

Yes, it was.

That's great, sj. I have been eating super healthy, but haven't lost anything. But I am trying to focus on health first. I've not been very active which is a big factor for me. Today at least I got an hour of swimming in, which was glorious. I thought the pool was still too cold but when I was untangling the vacuum thingy it felt nice so I changed and jumped in!

My latest food plan has basically been vegan plus fish. I dumped the eggs and cheese in the continuing effort to try and have decent cholesterol numbers when I break down and go for my physical. I keep the fish both because I think it is healthy stuff, and it gives me better eating out options. Last night we ate out and I had red snapper with marinara sauce, capers and black olives. It was incredible. Also I got 3 meals out of the selection because this Italian restaurant has a warped notion of serving size.

I've not been very active which is a big factor for me.

I track my exercise on the calendar like the obsessive nerdling I am, and I walked 33 miles for exercise in March! This is huge, because I walked 2.6 miles in February, 1 whole mile in January, 7 miles in December, 5.25 miles in November...and then I stopped going backwards to check because that was REALLY eye-opening.

I mean, I recognize that last year was horrible for me, and so I lapsed into inactivity. But I feel a LOT better after a month of consistent walking. t edit Except my right hip is giving me some grief, and I need to use the foam roller to try to work that out.

Tim's BFF asked me last week if I had lost weight (I think the last time he saw me was New Year's Eve), and I honestly don't know because we don't own a scale. I *think* I have less of a double chin, but I see my face every day, so it's hard to tell.

And while I'd like my clothes to fit better, mostly my goal is more energy and feeling better, which is happening, so I am super happy about that.

I didn't exercise, which they really encourage you to do on whole30, but I really wanted to know if eliminating certain foods would help with pain. I didn't want to complicate that by possibly being sore from a new exercise routine. I plan on starting exercising again after Easter.

I know the elimination and reintroduction process is super annoying, but worth it if you can pinpoint the foods that trigger pain.

Yeah, more movement is on my agenda. I got Zoe a new harness so she doesn't break my arms when I walk with her and that helps. Also the GF not only loves carrots, but is always up for walking or going to the gym with me.