Sumi I hope you find an amazing job.

Sumi, I hope you find something where you're much better appreciated soon.

I'm here to vent. My sister's been here since July 15, when she came early to take over for my house/cat-sitter, who had to leave. She spends every summer and fall with me because it's too hot and humid in Sayulita, MX. She used to go on and on about being homeless, all woe is me, because she lost her house in CA to foreclosure when she bought a house in Sayulita. Finally, she seems to have heard me saying, you're not homeless, you have a house in MX for starters, and you can always stay with me. Always. We get along pretty well, so it mostly works with the two of us, my two cats, her little dog. She had knee replacement surgery last year, and shoulder surgery this year, and I'm happy to help with all that. She's doing a lot of beading, making necklaces, which is great because she's making something instead of spending money that she doesn't have. So the but is....But she's almost always *here* and it's starting to drive me crazy! I wish she'd just go away for a day, or part of a day, so I could be here in my house alone. I just can't think like myself, not entirely, when I'm around another person all the time. Same thing happened on my 2.25-month long vacation this summer, I was relieved when my friend wanted to part ways once we hit warmer climate zones. So it's bigger than this situation, and it's one of the reasons I'm glad I'm not in a relationship, and I don't know how to talk about it without it being awkward for me to talk about, which means I can't ask her to go see a movie or something. So I'm venting. It's a tiny house, and I want to cook, and listen to podcasts while I do it, and put on the CD our chorus director made and practice singing. Instead I'm staying away from her and probably acting weird! Argh!!

Relatedly, how do people live together year in, year out, without going nuts? Henry and I lasted 11 years before I left him, and so far it's still enough togetherness for my lifetime.

Living with people isn't easy. As much as I love my husband and kids I treasure my alone time. Is there any way you could interest her in taking a class somewhere or something that would get her out of the house?

Java, I don't even know, I'm like you. Sometimes I get a little lonely but I think I'd go mad if there were someone else here constantly.

I hear you, Java. It's tough.

Hubby and I would occupy ourselves in separate rooms, though he would have been happier with both of us in the same room. He wanted to know everything that went on in my head, but I never told him. I dreamed of a place of my own with just my books, but it always came down to life without him being less pleasant than life with him.

TCG and I will often be in the same room reading and occasionally talking about what we're reading. Of course, now we also have a toddler in the room, who will NOT be ignored.

I think my body is starting to get used to the zoloft. I'm much less shaky today, but I have had to cut way back on my caffeine consumption. My stomach is upset, but hopefully I'll be able to get around enough tomorrow for TCG to go to work.

Mom and I are struggling with the getting used to living together. Part of it is realizing, for both if us, that sometimes the main area will be used and the other person will have to use their bedroom.

Mom likes shows with medical procedures and she wasn't watching them or would switch the TV if I came home or something but I'll disappear during that.

I need to get better about going out wHulett she's home so she'll have time.