I'm sorry, Erika. Expected or not it is hard, but with the family dynamic it makes it that much worse.
I've been quiet because I am miserable with tooth/head pain issues. I think it is a combo of things, but most uncomfy for a few days. I went to my normal dentist, never liked that office, and they filled me with no confidence. Then I went to SIL's friend dentist and still didn't feel a bunch of confidence. So I went to the dental school at the university where DH and I graduated. It was quite a lengthy ordeal, but I felt really good about the people. I felt they only cared about fixing my issues. So after 3-1/2 hours of chair torture I am now in constant not too bad pain as a contrast to the previous intermittent really bad pain.
In the midst of all this we had another incident with #1 son, which is still unresolved.
So my BP was at 158/101, so I dug out the BP pill samples my doctor gave me a couple years ago that I never took. I only took 1 a couple days ago, but it brought it down and it is still ok this morning. My super paranoid doctor texts me with reminders that left jaw pain can be cardiac and he is going to annoy me until all is well in Laura land. He saves me the trouble of being a hypochondriac since he worries enough for both of us.