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I truly appreciate the support.

I took a composite approach...gentle tough love, plus you need to leave, plus let's email someone you can stay with now...and a small loan.

I hope I see the $50 again...he needed it to do a title transfer to get a title (read: predatory) loan on the motorcycle. If I don't, I will consider it a miniscule return on the amazing largesse I have received in my life.

No more mutual favors. His 'doing for me' involved hanging out at my house as a buffer between me and the landlord. That was useful, but I have healthier options for that.

The feeling I have now surprises me some. I am neither regretful nor relieved. I just really do wish him well.

Thanks so much for your thoughts!

Mom came home and said she talked to Dad. Dad called her and had questions about when G'ma (Mom's mother died).

Grandma E (Dad's mom) has been having bad stomach pains and they went to the ER. The doctors couldn't find anything but kidney stones and some blood in her urine sot hey aren't sure.

But she kept saying "I'm terminal" and that she wanted family to be their for my Aunt (that Grandma E lives with) And then she seemed better (this was last night i guess) and they went home. But she's having pains again and is back at the hospital.

Mom told me so Dad wouldn't have to tell me or my brother and call his brothers about what was going on.

The thing is my great grandmother knew. I don't remember the story but she knew when she was going to die and so now I'm worried.

But Grandma E also has dementia so she may be confused ... I don't know.

Just.. I guess generalized ~ma would be good.

Kidney stones can be very painful and it isn't unusual for the elderly to equate going to the hospital with dying. My mom always thinks she isn't going to get to go home. It is super hard on the family for sure. Lots of ~ma for all.

There's a big struggle keeping Grandma E inside and hydrated. She has a compulsion to "weed" (pull up grass) and she can't tell how hot it is so she'll get over heated. And of course if you give her water she'll sip on it and not drink all of it unless there's some prompting.

Edited I'm also kinda worried that her fear/belief will push things. And I'm selfish I want her around.

Yes, keeping Mom hydrated here is a task too. She has issues swallowing, and I know she doesn't drink a lot because she doesn't want to make a lot of bathroom trips too. But it is super easy to get dehydrated in this kind of heat even when you don't go outside.

The flip side is that drinking too much water can throw off your sodium and potassium levels in your blood -- it happened to my dad 3 years ago. And he was totally disoriented and whacked out. It was a bit scary.

Seriously, bodies are much too fragile!

Duration of loan? 4.5 hours.

The friend came back with the dosh, filled me in on his progress for the day, promised to keep in touch and left.

Phew. And, good on him.

Thanks again, y'all!

Whew. Good for him and good for you, bonny!