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Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


WindSparrow - Aug 05, 2016 11:26:37 am PDT #25704 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.

I hope this therapist is a good fit for you, Steph.


Vortex - Aug 05, 2016 11:37:29 am PDT #25705 of 30002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Argh! People! I win tickets to a corporate golf thing, free food and booze. Plus a shuttle walking distance from my place. Invite a friend. Turns out that she lives near the course, so wants to meet there. Fine. But, I've never been, so don't know the setup. She then suggests that I drive to her house and meet there. Um, no. Not only would I have to watch my drinks, I would be On her schedule for when to leave, since my car would be at her house. Why am I expected to change my plans for her convenience? Aren't I the one hooking her up?


sj - Aug 05, 2016 11:40:30 am PDT #25706 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

I'm sorry people are being especially sucky today.

Good luck with the new therapist.


Burrell - Aug 05, 2016 12:20:26 pm PDT #25707 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!

I can't imagine she'd truly have a problem with you taking the shuttle, Vortex, especially since she's there on your invitation. Maybe she thinks offering her house is easier somehow for you? I would think you could just say no thanks and then peace out any hemming or hawing on your friend's part.


askye - Aug 05, 2016 3:30:01 pm PDT #25708 of 30002
Thrive to spite them

Steph External validation is a wonderful thing. It's one of the big benefits I get from weekly therapy.

I saw my shrink, she lives elsewhere and is ending her contract with the health center in Oct so I'll see her one more time and then who ever they bring in. I'm thinking about looking for a new shrink but I don't think there are many choices where I live and going to the town where my therapist is ....it's tempting but it's more driving and then I'd be more likely to add additional doctors visits to the same trip and that's not a good thing.

Mom's going out of town over night tomorrow night for her birthday and I was thinking "okay so we're getting up and having breakfast and I have the whole day and I'm not leaving the house tomorrow or Sunday..." except I have group therapy. I partly want to skip it but I know that's not a good idea. It's only the second week but it's so tempting.

Now I have to go do my homework.

I'd tell your friend that it's nice of her to offer the shuttle is more convenient for you. Because it is.


meara - Aug 05, 2016 4:09:54 pm PDT #25709 of 30002

Yeah, I'd just reiterate that she should plan to meet you there, then. That's what cellphones are for, if it's confusing.

I was feeling meh about going out tonight--I'm v tired, and my throat hurts a bit. Then I realized the opening ceremonies are on soon (stupid west coast tape delay!) so I think I will cuddle up on my couch and do that. No dancing, no movie in the park. Less exciting, but more my speed today.


Topic!Cindy - Aug 05, 2016 5:51:16 pm PDT #25710 of 30002
What is even happening?

Okay, I emailed a potential therapist, because my coping skills are gone. They are outsourced entirely to Ativan and denial, when I'm not just completely freaking out.

Wait, Tep, Ativan and denial aren't a plan? Damn it. Apparently, in my plan, we are planless.


sj - Aug 05, 2016 6:41:51 pm PDT #25711 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."

My current plan is good and denial. There is a new therapist down the street. I should see if she takes my coverage and if I can arrange to have appointments when I know my mother is around for the baby.


Steph L. - Aug 05, 2016 6:50:15 pm PDT #25712 of 30002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Wait, Tep, Ativan and denial aren't a plan? Damn it.

Not even adding ice cream into the mix helped. Although it was nice to see Hil in the middle of the day (I helped with GISHWHES pictures).


Scrappy - Aug 05, 2016 9:54:45 pm PDT #25713 of 30002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

I will be traveling home tomorrow, so we celebrated my birthday today. This trip was supposed to be a joint anniversary/60th birthday gift, so I wasn't expecting anything. My adorable dude surprised me tonight with a lovely Tiffany silver bracelet with a few freshwater pearls strung on it ( I think they call it "pearls by the yard"). Very classy and very pretty. The best part of it was how vulnerable and hopeful he looked after he gave to me, waiting to see if I liked it. OF COURSE I liked it.

Also, jesus christ I am going to be 60 tomorrow! WTF