Also I saw the FB thread with you (Steph) and Plei and I wanted to say some thigns but I wasn't sure what would show up on my feed and I just ...don't want to deal with..say...Mom reading something and feeling judged by her.
My brother (also on the spectrum) and I decided to not mention it to our parents, because mom will wail about how she caused it and dad will just talk over us to tell us about some ailment he has. So we just text each other amusing stories. (When I got to Colorado when he was trying to stop drinking, and it was 11:30 at night and he was in bed because he was sick, I was sitting on the edge of the bed and he reached over to take my hand and I flinched, and he laughed and said "Oh my god, you are autistic as HELL!" and I said, "Yeah? Well, you're autistic and an alcoholic, so right now I WIN.") (We are SUPER healthy and a couple of dicks.)
My part in the equation is to run around shrieking like Daffy Duck when he lost his shit.
Not true. You look things up and you care, that is not nothing.
So I was like "I'll look at rings on Etsy" and the firs tthing that pops out at me is Stucky engagement rings. With lovey words engraved on them so that won't work.
askye, what about one of these?
Or this fidget ring?
Oh those might work. I haven't looked at Signals in ages.
I hope it's not super-serious, Tep.
Not true. You look things up and you care, that is not nothing.
This needed repeating.
askye, could you wear a long necklace with a couple of small charms on it, and fiddle with them? That's what I do -- it's part of the reason I wear long, jingly necklaces. (The other reason being I apparently need to own all the ankhs and keys, but that's a different thing entirely.)
Steph - think ing all the good thouhts and , form what you said, it sounds like things will be ok.
and I love the vision of you as Daffy duck, even if it less than fun to be daffy duck ( I do daffy duck a lot -- but I call it letting my inner teenager out - because that is who I work with )
askye - so glad people have ideas and can help you
Teppy, you probably know this, but remember that Doctors are told to mention worst possible outcome to preempt malpractice suits later on. They will almost always tell you the unlikely but most serious possibility, rather than the more likely prosaic one. Which sucks for patients and family, but it's the way it is.
I'm not really a jewelry person. I wore the pendant Will gave me and would fidget with that and in high school I wore a necklace but it's not my thing. I mean I don't think it makes sense when I wear such plain clothes and currently don't go out or do much. Although I realize that it really doesn't matter it just feels...I don't know how to describe it.
But I'll keep looking and I appreciate the suggestions. I'll keep an eye out when I'm in stores so I can try things on.
