I'm not going to say that today was a turning point but I had a good day. Including playing with E - with bubbles and a water gun (he let me shoot him and he used lids from pots as sheilds) and then we went to the creek and played pooh sticks.
He was begging for me to take him to rock climbing (they had a half day) but Mom was running behind and i dnd't have shoes or my purse or keys. I'm looking forward to Friday and spending time with him.
And I've cooked two nights in row. Makes me feel cautiously hopeful
Aloe vera oil can be good, but if you put on too much you can feel little fibers in it.
Finally made it to the therapy game group. It was nice, I think one guy (who was also new) wasn't in therapy but was a friend of someone. I'm not sure.
We played Evolution and Splendor - well there were too many people so some played another game. I won Splendor! About half way through it clicked.
Two of the regulars are in the group therapy but only one was there. It was nice, low key and I didn't get stressed out. Except there's a small brewery catty corner and they have Thursday night parties so it was a bit... loud and at first I thought that would bother me but once I was inside I forgot about it.
Yay for gaming and winning at Splendor! One of my favorite games.
askye, I am so proud of you for going to game night. Go, you, with your splendor winning self!
Cards Against Humanity was mentioned but declared not right for the group which I understand.
It was so neat to play games with more than one person.
Therapy game group sounds like a great idea. I wonder if that's something I can find.
There's a thread on Ravelry where a woman is describing her husband's forgetfulness and crankiness. He forgets where he's put things and blames her for moving them and dismisses her suggestions. This was Hubby before he got his low testosterone dealt with (well, someone of it was that he was just a butthead at times).
A lot of the respondents are saying "Oh, this is bordering on emotional abuse, you need to think about leaving him," so few of them are giving him the benefit of the doubt that he's scared and confused and doesn't know how to cope like this and that he's not a man who's OK with looking weak in front of the woman he loves.
I know I'm only seeing one side of this, and maybe buttheadedness is a large part of it. But I figure I'm only going to get piled on if I argue for overlooking the behavior for now. (I was told more than once I should leave Hubby for the way he occasionally treated me, and the person was not impressed when I said I knew why he did it and could cope with it. Triggers, lovely triggers)
Sorry for the triggers. I think a lot of how people from the outside view a person's relationship is absurdly skewed. To be all mememe I am sure this is why I see my step-dad so differently than my 3 sibs. They all had horrible disastrous short marriages while Mom and I both have had lengthy happy marriages. We do strike out at those closest to us when we are in pain, and people in long term relationships seem to get this more than others. Obviously, there are real damn good reasons why we tell loved ones they need to get the hell out, but sometimes we aren't seeing the whole picture.
askye, glad to hear you had a good day.
Connie, that sounds tough. Hard to judge a relationship from the outside.
BEHOLD MY ADULTING. Sorry for asscaps. Today I had a good therapy session and she lent me a book and suggested a workbook for us to go through. I took my first dose of Effexor, which made me loopy AF so I'm glad I started on a day off. I went and met with my mentor, and it looks like in a month or so I'm going to quit my current job and go work with him. It's going to be a challenge for me, but more flexibility and support. After four years I'm just worn out from the chaos and I've regressed in terms of my level and variety of responsibilities.
Ran a couple other errands, then came home and put away laundry and sorted paperwork. I updated my budget software, and as a reward bought myself a needed pair of casual sneakers (ADIDAS, going back to the 90s) and a plane ticket back to NC to see my sister and attend a rugby reunion.
And typing all this has made me realized I scheduled a hair appt and doc appt for a day when I'm scheduled to volunteer, but I have time to fix that.
