Nanita we are lucky to have you as part of ou me community.

Therapist is 17 minutes late. No call yet. I definitely have to find the courage to tell him this is unacceptable. Why are therapists always making my stress worse rather than better?

Telling him that he is making your stress worse rather than better is exactly what I hope you will do. That is just completely unacceptable. Your time is at least as valuable as his. And your schedule with a baby is complex.

Thanks, Laura. We're moving my appointment for next week to half past, since that is the time he's been showing up anyway. He has a very long commute, which I understand, but I can't have Mom take the baby out for too long because I'm the only one who can feed her at the moment. We'll see if he can get here on time with the new schedule.

I do hope it works out. I can imagine it is much more convenient to have him come to you.

How is the nursing going? I often have a pang of guilt because it was so easy and such a joy for me while I know so many women that were unable (or unwilling) to do so for a number of reasons.

Sj would you feel comfortable bringing up the fact that if you were this late it wouldn't be acceptable and because if that you expect him to hold the same standard?

I am waiting for the case manager agaib. The appointment was at 11. It's 11:22. This happened last week. She doesn't go over to compensate for the delay. Maybe I was wrong about the time but I'm not going to wait much longer for her.

What is up with therapists being late? Of all people who should know better.

What is up with therapists being late? Of all people who should know better.

That's what I'm saying, but it has been a consistent problem with every type of therapist I've ever seen.

Sj would you feel comfortable bringing up the fact that if you were this late it wouldn't be acceptable and because if that you expect him to hold the same standard?

I did, and I told him it was very difficult to make my mother keep the baby out later than expected because she needs to be fed.

I do hope it works out. I can imagine it is much more convenient to have him come to you.

It really is at this point, which is the only reason why I'm still putting up with this at all.

How is the nursing going? I often have a pang of guilt because it was so easy and such a joy for me while I know so many women that were unable (or unwilling) to do so for a number of reasons.

It's going really well for the most part. I have plenty of milk and have from the beginning, which is great. She eats a lot during the day, which can be frustrating, but then she sleeps in big chunks at night. So, I don't feel I can complain too much. My biggest complaint is that sometimes when she's done instead of just delatching, she pulls at the nipple, which really hurts. Any advice on how to get her to stop doing that?

It has been a number of years, but I generally remember using a finger to break an overly enthusiastic latch. I was also grateful that the boys were super late getting teeth!

That was the advice I was given too, Laura, although neither of my kids picked up that habit so I can't really speak to its effectiveness.