Oh good. Though still take it easy, just 'cause.
Man, you just get darker and darker, and the weird thing is, your aura? Beige.
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brenda m - Jul 31, 2015 6:51:56 am PDT #20900 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
sj - Jul 31, 2015 6:53:59 am PDT #20901 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Right now I'm resting until my brother-in-law shows up. Then I need to start the marinara at about 2 or 3.
Zenkitty - Jul 31, 2015 7:03:42 am PDT #20902 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
I also think a sympathy card is enough, Vortex. Maybe send flowers if you feel really guilty. No one expects you to cancel plans and travel for the funeral of someone you were not close to.
Of course, we are currently in a cold war since she told me to get out of her life because I didn't think it was my job to take care of her.
Ouch. Sorry.
This week has been very stressful, work-wise.
sj - Jul 31, 2015 7:30:33 am PDT #20903 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Vortex, I'm sorry that things are strained with your mother.
Zenkitty, I'm sorry you're having a stressful day with work.
My brother-in-law is stuck in traffic coming in from New York. So, I'm going to go grab myself some lunch.
Vortex - Jul 31, 2015 8:03:04 am PDT #20904 of 30002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Ouch. Sorry.
eh, I'm over it. It was clear that she expected that my brother and I would accede to her every whim, and now I know why. Of course, she has to be nicer to my brother so she doesn't get cut off from the grandchildren. And she also doesn't understand why she's not my priority since I don't have a husband or children.
Vortex, I'm sorry that things are strained with your mother
Thank you, although they've been strained pretty much my whole life. My dad was a real buffer, and after he died, not only was the buffer gone, but there was no one to "take care of her" (although she is perfectly capable of taking care of herself). It just came to a head a few months ago. It was almost a relief.
Vortex - Jul 31, 2015 8:44:12 am PDT #20905 of 30002
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
So, just talked to my other cousin (cousin who lost his wife's sister), find out that wife actually died on the 14th. So, she could have called and said "Gracie passed away, not sure when the funeral is going to be, wanted to give you the heads up". Instead, she waits until the 29th, 2 days before, to tell me.
Toddson - Jul 31, 2015 9:00:32 am PDT #20906 of 30002
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wow ... we really did have the same mother ... that was one of my mother's classic moves
Beverly - Jul 31, 2015 9:05:55 am PDT #20907 of 30002
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Vortex, I agree with the "don't go" option, but I do think a card and flowers would be nice. But send the flowers to the family, rather than the funeral home or gravesite, I think. Comfort the living.
And I'm sorry about your relationship with your mom. I wasn't so wise with mine.
sj - Jul 31, 2015 9:12:32 am PDT #20908 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
So, just talked to my other cousin (cousin who lost his wife's sister), find out that wife actually died on the 14th. So, she could have called and said "Gracie passed away, not sure when the funeral is going to be, wanted to give you the heads up". Instead, she waits until the 29th, 2 days before, to tell me.
That's just outright manipulative. Definitely don't go.
Hil R. - Jul 31, 2015 9:28:38 am PDT #20909 of 30002
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That's just outright manipulative. Definitely don't go.
I agree with this.
My cousin is getting married in a few weeks, and I wish I could go, but I don't think I can, because it's right when meetings and stuff will be starting for the new semester, and I'm going to have to go to those, plus start prepping lessons for my classes, since I'll almost certainly have at least one class that I haven't taught before. (New school uses the same calculus textbook as old school, and has the same class schedule, with 50-minute class sessions, four days a week, so I can keep a lot of my old lesson plans and notes for that without much hassle. But any course other than calculus, I need to start from scratch.)