Ugh smonster, it sounds like you are being very supportive and yet careful to set your own boundaries. Sending ~ma to your family.
And Steph, Tim looks wonderful in those pics! How great for both of you to have such wonderful photos (I am thinking here of the ones they took of you as well). Awesome studio, may I say?Also having total make up envy. I want someone to do me up all glam sometime. (Okay I did have great make up at my wedding, but that's the only time. A girl should have proper make up once in a while, right?)
Tim is very appreciative of his fan club, and said (I quote) "you have awesome friends."
He also said "Take away that hair and makeup, and that's what every day is like at Stately Beckmeyer Manor." Which is basically true (although he's wearing a miniskirt and flippy-floppies right now).
Tim's pictures look awesome.
I'm watching TV, and getting tempted to start writing to TV writers with "This is how you write scenes of 'hacking' so that viewers who actually know something about computer security don't throw things at the screen." Because, really, it does not involve typing nonsense very quickly.
Zen, insent.
Hil, how photogenic would real hacking be compared to TV/hollywood hacking?
Hil, how photogenic would real hacking be compared to TV/hollywood hacking?
They could at least have people stop and think for a second and then look like they were typing something deliberate, rather than just smashing their fingers against the keyboard.
Possibly the worst "hacking" ever: [link]
smonster I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It is incredibly difficult to go through, especially with a loved one. I don't have direct advice about the root causes aspect. But regarding suicide prevention, I always recommend ASIST. It's an intensive, two day training, intended for "front lines" folks like us, not professionals, but the people living, day in and day out with someone in danger. I have taken it myself, and I have sent colleagues and former students through it, and it has literally saved lives of some of those folks' circles. The next one nearest you isn't until September, and it's simply marked "Louisiana" so I have no idea how near you it will be, but I suggest checking it out. [link]
You can poke around that website for more info about the course. They have a simple one that's just for learning to talk about suicide and this two day one which goes into prevention.
I'm sorry, smonster. If you ever need to come up here to help with anything and amyth's spare room isn't available, you are always welcome in mine.
Steph, in the summer, please tell Tim about the wonder and glory of thin cotton sarongs. You can get them cheap at Old Navy and nicer ones at head shops, and I have several and I wear them tied at the chest, or folded as a skirt of various lengths. When it gets effing hot out, I LIVE in sarongs.
I keep try to get Dan to wear them around the house, esp. since we didn't have air the last 2 years at the old house. I got him to try one on, and he admitted it was very comfortable, but so far, he hasn't worn one.
Of course, it took me 4 years to convince the man that you don't HAVE to wear street shoes, work pants, and belt from the time you get home from work to the time you go to bed. It drove me CRAZY, ut he just looked so uncomfortable. I hurl off shoes, socks, bra and about everything as soon as I get home, and slap on a sarong or yoga pants/PJ's and a tank. And a hoodie or ugly grandpa sweater if it's chilly.
I am wearing a green sarong and an ugly grandpa cardie right now AIFG!
