TIM! tell him he looks FAB! That HAIR in the lingerie photo is ON POINT.

He looks gorgeous and happy and fun.

Those are great pictures.

I wish I could push some of my losartan through the interwebs to you, Typo. Too many insurance companies make these ridiculous rules based on an unexamined belief that their clients are dishonest and apply them to all drugs. No one is going to a dark street corner and whisper, "Hey, could you hook me up with a couple of losartan?" No, because of insurance companies, they're going online and buying understrength or adulterated drugs made in India.

It's seems particularly cruel to have such a short time limit to report errors. I can understand having a cutoff, but it shouldn't be shorter than the time period covered by the drugs. I also buy drugs by the bushel, and I don't pay much attention to an individual prescription.

Tim is adorable.

Typo, that sucks. I hope you get the situation sorted out okay.

Tim, with the fabulous! Please add my compliments and thanks for sharing the photos, Steph.

askye, you removed yourself from a situation that wasn't working for you and sounds toxic. GOOD FOR YOU. I hope you can meet one on one with the guy and see if that works better.

Separate post for the mememe: I need help. I haven't talked about this here, because I've been trying to respect her privacy, but I've hit a wall and don't know what to do. My sister tried to commit suicide again in February for the first time in years. She has diagnoses of bipolar and borderline personality disorder, which means a lot of black and white thinking and very volatile relationships. She has very little sense of self, and is moving back home with my very rigid parents (father micromanager and caretaker, mother super negative and caretakee).

I'm trying to support her from afar, but the littlest thing gets her to shut down and stop talking to me, as she just did in Messenger.* All she seems to want is someone to complain to: I'm guessing she feels so lost and overwhelmed that she can't even begin to think about strategies. My parents had her sign an agreement and now want her to edit it. She hasn't, I asked her why, she said, "I just don't care," I asked "about what? living?" and she ended the conversation (this was a few days ago). I suggested that she make the agreement more of a two-sided thing (asking parents to let her sleep in one day a week, setting boundaries on how they support her); I offered to help her with a draft. She liked one or two of the suggestions but hasn't done anything.

She says "I'm just tired and want to be left alone".

I know I can't "fix" her, I just want to figure out how to support her because she doesn't even know. I struggle with setting boundaries with her, though I'm better than I used to be. I'm thinking about buying this book or similar - [link] - because I don't know how to deal with her. None of us do.

This is teal deer, I know. If anyone has resources or tips on supporting people with BPD (or Emotional Dysregulation Disorder, which is what they're moving towards calling it), then I'd appreciate it. ~ma for my sister R and our whole family also appreciated.

* hahaha turns out she had to go eat lunch. because it was lunchtime. oh, my own silly projecting. this post is still pretty accurate.

Typo, I'm sorry about the meds drama, and I hope a workaround is found before it's all sorted out again.

askye, that situation sounds awful, and rather than helpful, actually harmful for you. I'm glad you extricated yourself from it, and are making other steps that are better for you.

Teppy, Tim is so joyous in those pics, so comfortable and glamorous, and it's beautiful to see. I don't have the shoes gene, so he gets all my share, okay? Thank you both for sharing the photos.

crosspost, smonster. I'm so sorry your sis is dealing with this. I have no helpful suggestions, and I'm sorry, but I wish her the best, and that you find a way to support her that's good for you both.

smonster, I have a bunch of therapist friends. I will ask around for conrete techniques that have worked for their clients.

I got an email from my therapist. I'm going to try and contact some of the places I got info about.

I emailed my manager at work and asked if I could talk about going in just one day a week maybe working registers or doing warehouse stuff until I'm feeling more steady.

I'll even straighten or clean stuff.

smonster, best of luck finding a way to help your sister. So much to navigate there without going astray. Clear sailing!

askye, that sounds like a great first step. My favorite aunt used to say "inch by inch, anything's a cinch". I try to take that to heart and when something is too overwhelming, finding the smallest component part to start with and just do it. Sometimes, that means picking up one dirty cup and taking it to the sink. Break it down to what works for you.