So I just spoke to my sister a few hours ago. Mom has had another stroke and has lost movement pretty much completely down one side of her body. It's honestly not like she's had much movement there to begin with. She's now officially on home hospice.

I've not spoken much about her in a long time. It's difficult. The woman I knew as my mother has been gone for a long time, and in some ways I've been mourning that loss for years, even while she is still alive. All I hope for now is that she can have release. It's what I've hoped for a long time.

It may sound cold hearted, but I would just like it to come quickly for her, but that hasn't seemed to be the way this has gone.

So. There it is.

The's nothing cold hearted about it, ND. I suspect that's the way she would vote, if she could.

That's not cold-hearted, ND, that's compassionate. No one wants to linger and no one wants them to linger, either. Pretty much everyone in my family has DNRs on their record. And, if they don't, we all know that that's their wish, because it's something we often discuss.

No, that sounds loving, really. I've hoped it for many relatives over the years.

Very understandable, especially given the circumstances, ND.

If you're cold-hearted, ND (you aren't), then so am I. This is how I felt about my mother's slow decline. It's so hard. I wish you and your family peace and strength and best outcomes possible.

That isn't cold-hearted, ND. It's understandable. Much love and strength to you and your family.

I'll agree with what others said, ND. We had eight years to mourn my dad before he died. They could not be described by any of us as positive, for him or for us. Peace and comfort, to all of you.

What has been said, ND. Strength and comfort to you and yours in the time to come.

Yeah, my grandfather was gone for me several years before he died. It's really hard.