Congratulations, Bonny!

I took the cowards way out and left a voicemail for my uncle when I knew he wouldn't be home. I told him I was feeling groggy on my new GD medication and didn't think I was up for the drive to RI. Both are true. And because I hadn't actually bought a gift for the shower yet, I sent a gift directly to the bride and groom from their registry.

I think you mean the best way out. The last thing you need right now is people arguing with on what is best for you or laying a guilt trip on you about it. And maybe your uncle would not have done that but why open the door?

I doubt he would be a jerk about it, but I just don't have the spoons to deal with people on the phone right now.

That's what voicemail is for, sj! Avoiding humans when you're out of spoons. Also, buying gifts off registries and having them sent. How did we manage in the world before?

signed, pretty much out of spoons for a week now

A foot of snow in April ought to be illegal.

I suppose I can't just ask to switch doctors within my practice at this point in my pregnancy, can I? The doctor that I saw the other day was not my doctor, and she was wonderful. She really took the time to talk to me yesterday, and when I called today to talk to her about some concerns I have with the new meds, she called me back herself! This does not happen with my current doctor. I always end up talking to a nurse, which is usually fine, but it does mean I am getting all my answers second hand.

I suppose I can't just ask to switch doctors within my practice at this point in my pregnancy, can I?

I don't see why not. If there's ever a time to be totally happy and comfortable with your doctor (is there ever a time not to?) it's when you're growing a new human.

I suppose I can't just ask to switch doctors within my practice at this point in my pregnancy, can I?

I don't see why not. If there's ever a time to be totally happy and comfortable with your doctor (is there ever a time not to?) it's when you're growing a new human.

Seriously, I think people forget this when it comes to healthcare: you are, in essence, the customer. If you have a better experience with the second doctor, then you have every right to switch. You didn't sign a contract stating that you will only see Doctor #1, right? (And any such contract would be unenforceable anyway.)

It's your health and well-being, which extends now to the health and well-being of your baby. If you get better care from Doctor #2, you should switch. If Doctor #1 tries to push back, say that this isn't a negotiation; it's your choice as the patient.

That's what voicemail is for, sj! Avoiding humans when you're out of spoons. Also, buying gifts off registries and having them sent. How did we manage in the world before?

I don't know. I love living in the modern world.

Seriously, I think people forget this when it comes to healthcare: you are, in essence, the customer. If you have a better experience with the second doctor, then you have every right to switch. You didn't sign a contract stating that you will only see Doctor #1, right? (And any such contract would be unenforceable anyway.)

It's your health and well-being, which extends now to the health and well-being of your baby. If you get better care from Doctor #2, you should switch. If Doctor #1 tries to push back, say that this isn't a negotiation; it's your choice as the patient.

I just don't like upsetting people, and I could still end up with Doctor #1 on delivery day. I actually think Doctor #1 is an excellent doctor, but I find Doctor #2 to be more personable and approachable. Is that a good enough reason to switch doctors?

sj, what would you tell one of us?

It is a good enough reason to switch. You are in a high-risk pregnancy, and anything that can ease your concerns and questions will be beneficial to both you and ltc. Go with your gut, or at least have the conversation with Docter #2.

{{{askye}}} I wish there was a magic fix for all of this, but you're on the right path, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

sj, what would you tell one of us?

You know me too well.

It is a good enough reason to switch. You are in a high-risk pregnancy, and anything that can ease your concerns and questions will be beneficial to both you and ltc. Go with your gut, or at least have the conversation with Docter #2.

That's a good idea. She also told me again today that I'm doing a really good job with the diet, and I don't need to be so hard on myself, which is really what I needed to hear.