Toddson, I had actually forgotten about that. I'll save that for another day. I think I shocked them enough last night. But it is good to have something even craxier in my back pocket.

Is there anyone at work you could talk with? Y'all are going thru the same stress. Maybe a little group therapy?

Everyone here seems pretty blasé about it. I'm sure they're having their own emotions, but no one else seems like they are freaking out with pants-wetting terror.

Aren't employment changes in the 6 biggest stressors an adult can experience. It isn't a hangnail. I think it is right before moving, but after death of a loved one.

According to this, marriage ranks right before dismissal from work, and their combined point total (how are these points tallied? I am confused) is pretty fucking high.

Also, I feel like a diamond-shoes-too-tight DICK for complaining about the stress of planning a wedding. I'm lucky enough to be marrying the best person I have ever met, who makes me happy in a way I didn't think was possible -- but planning this wedding SUCKS BALLS.

Plus, the timing of losing a job and having to look for a new job while planning the wedding and then possibly try to convince someone to hire me even though I'm about to need time off to get married and take a honeymoon is daunting as hell. Who would want to hire someone who immediately needs time off? It doesn't seem like a good outcome could be possible.

Also, the Ativan isn't helping a whole lot.

Teppy, where I work have often hired people who needed time off soon after starting (OK, I admit, it's run by crazy people, but still).

Tep,

you add up all the points from the stressful events you experience (e.g. get married and then go to prison is 128). According to the scale, under 150 and it is a slight change in illness.

Check out this one which may have items that are more pertinent to your situation: [link]

Also, I feel like a diamond-shoes-too-tight DICK for complaining about the stress of planning a wedding. I'm lucky enough to be marrying the best person I have ever met, who makes me happy in a way I didn't think was possible -- but planning this wedding SUCKS BALLS.

You are not a dick. Weddings are terribly emotional, stressful events. Even the thought of trying to plan a wedding freaked me out to no end, which is why we ended up eloping.

According to this,

Missing on that list is Moving across the country. The closest I found was Change in Living Conditions which is only a 25.

Going into an interview knowing you need time off for something is not uncommon at all. Especially when it's not, like, oh, I have a pedicure in France scheduled that week, but YOUR WEDDING. Truly!

According to the scale, under 150 and it is a slight change in illness.

I seem to be around 180. That's high, huh?

(Just once, I want a pedicure-in-France life. And I don't even like pedicures.)

Planning a wedding is totally stressful. It involves people.