You have to, Andi. Put on your oxygen mask before helping others. You add so much joy and caring to the world, that's important. Maybe more important than finding things to fix.
Spike: I'm not a monster. Xander: Yes! You are a monster. Vampires are monsters! They make monster movies about them! Spike: Well, yeah. Got me there.
'Dirty Girls'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
brenda m - Nov 15, 2014 5:33:27 am PST #14398 of 30002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
Calli - Nov 15, 2014 11:07:16 am PST #14399 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
Tell me it isn't wrong to pick one to focus on and let the others go.
It's not wrong to pick one to focus on and let the others go. It's really not. If you try to do everything you'll end up unable to contribute to anything well, and you'll burn yourself out in the meantime.
Hil R. - Nov 16, 2014 10:13:23 am PST #14400 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
So. Um. OK Cupid guy asked if we can consider ourselves "official," and I said yes. So we're official, whatever that means. (And I asked him not to mention it on facebook for now, because of my mother asking questions that I don't feel like dealing with. I'm figuring, if we're still seeing each other once we get to winter break, I'll tell her then. I should probably tell him that, so he doesn't think this is indefinitely facebook-secret.)
Steph L. - Nov 16, 2014 10:18:52 am PST #14401 of 30002
I look more rad than Lutheranism
That sounds like a good thing, Hil. Yay!
lisah - Nov 16, 2014 10:29:38 am PST #14402 of 30002
Punishingly Intricate
That's great, Hil!!! And, yeah, letting him know why you don't make it "FB official" yet is probably a good idea.
Hil R. - Nov 16, 2014 11:55:12 am PST #14403 of 30002
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Thanks, guys.
I just sent him a message explaining a bit more why I didn't want to tell my mom yet. I realized that I'd phrased it last night as "I don't want to tell my mom," rather than "I don't want to tell my mom yet," and that "yet" is kind of needed -- it's not like I'm planning on hiding it from her forever. Just that I kind of want to process things in my own brain, which will take a little bit of time, before I'm ready to start answering the million questions she's going to ask.
meara - Nov 16, 2014 1:01:32 pm PST #14404 of 30002
That's awesome, Hil! And good to clarify, indeed, that it's a "yet" and a "my own issues" and not a "never" and "don't want to introduce you to my mom" kind of thing.
JenP - Nov 16, 2014 1:29:48 pm PST #14405 of 30002
That's awesome, Hil!
Burrell - Nov 16, 2014 1:44:00 pm PST #14406 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
Glad to hear it's all going so well, Hil
beth b - Nov 16, 2014 2:03:04 pm PST #14407 of 30002
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
yay! I'm glad you found someone nice