Not a long term strategy, but as a short term strategy you should allow it. There are a lot of emotions tied up with that house, and it is really not surprising that you would be so anxious about the whole process. Tons of calm~ma and you-will-get-through-this~ma headed your way.
You guys had a riot? On account of me? A real riot?
Jayne ,'Jaynestown'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
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sj - Nov 04, 2014 6:58:12 am PST #14249 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Fred Pete - Nov 04, 2014 6:59:12 am PST #14250 of 30002
Ann, that's a ferret.
Agreed. Sometimes you just have to think like John Lennon -- whatever gets you through the night, it's all right.
Ginger - Nov 04, 2014 7:00:08 am PST #14251 of 30002
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Not everything has to be a long-term strategy. When you're going through something like this, you need short-term coping strategies such as Reeses and beer.
Maria - Nov 04, 2014 7:03:33 am PST #14252 of 30002
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
Thank you, truly. I don't know what I'd do without all of you.
Connie Neil - Nov 04, 2014 7:05:02 am PST #14253 of 30002
brillig
Curling up on the couch with the leftover mini-Reese's and beer is not a long-term strategy.
Of course not, you're going to run out of mini-Reese's eventually. And when you do, you can go adult again.
Toddson - Nov 04, 2014 7:51:11 am PST #14254 of 30002
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
And, with beer, you have to get up to pee.
We all need occasional vacations from being adults.
Connie Neil - Nov 04, 2014 8:02:50 am PST #14255 of 30002
brillig
Fanfic and TV show DVDs got me through the first months after Hubby died. "That story's not finished yet. I guess I have to hang on a little longer." Whatever works.
Laura - Nov 04, 2014 8:45:02 am PST #14256 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
Curling up on the couch with the leftover mini-Reese's and beer is not a long-term strategy.
Excellent strategy! My friend here just went through the same thing, actually on two houses because she was living in one and renting out the other when the RE market crashed. The banks did not seek the deficit from her. She is still reeling in the feeling a failure zone a bit, but vodka and bad boys are helping her.
There are a number of people I know that had no other option too. It sucks, but you have lots and lots of company.
eta: To repeat, no other choice! It isn't like you or so many others planned on ever having to do the deed in lieu route.
Connie Neil - Nov 04, 2014 8:47:55 am PST #14257 of 30002
brillig
vodka and bad boys are helping her.
Vodka and Bad Boys would be a great band name.
Zenkitty - Nov 04, 2014 9:08:40 am PST #14258 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
After everything went wrong and M. died, I sold my house to a real estate flipper, just to be able to move on. I walked away with a check for $79. Seventy-nine dollars, for ten years of my life. It was like he handed me a note that said 'This is what you're worth, you loser.'
Sometimes you've just got to walk away and close the door, and it's hard and it's sad. But it's not a failure, Maria. You're doing what you need to do.