Yeah, that's an important one to learn. Hard, though. Especially because we get societal conditioning to depreciate our capabilities.
I wear the cheese. It does not wear me.
Cheese Man ,'Chosen'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Liese S. - Jul 14, 2014 8:12:46 am PDT #12204 of 30002
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Connie Neil - Jul 14, 2014 8:27:01 am PDT #12205 of 30002
brillig
He was such a big personality. I consciously let him take the lead, because being with him was so much more fun than constantly insisting that he back off occasionally. He didn't know how, to the frustration of nearly everyone who knew him.
It's kind of nice not to have to explain why I'm driving a particular route instead of a route that makes more sense to him. He was constantly trying to understand my brain, and it frustrated him when I said "I'm doing this just because this is the way I'm doing it."
Frustrating, magnificent man.
Laura - Jul 14, 2014 8:45:22 am PDT #12206 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
That is a big one for DH too. It was easier for me to get him used to me doing things my own way though because we started out when I was 34 and he was 23. The thing I always said was, "you have 2 choices; you can drive or I can drive, but me driving your way isn't one of the options." In our case it was generally the keyboard we were talking about driving because we worked on computer systems together. He wants to stand over me and say, "type this." Makes me crazy.
It is going to take a bit to get your bearings, Connie. Oh how I wish it could be an easier road.
meara - Jul 14, 2014 10:22:01 am PDT #12207 of 30002
we started out when I was 34 and he was 23
Somehow I misread that as Liese posting this and was like "wait, have you been lying about your age forever??" Hah!
Liese S. - Jul 14, 2014 2:37:17 pm PDT #12208 of 30002
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."
Hahah, busted, meara! I have totally been lying!
No, I met the SO when I was 16 and he was 23. We were babies!
Burrell - Jul 14, 2014 5:20:45 pm PDT #12209 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
So she got his age right, I see. I'm impressed. meara pays attention.
sj - Jul 14, 2014 5:24:56 pm PDT #12210 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Home from the wake. My great-aunt was understandably taking it hard. They would have been married 65 years this year. I can't even imagine that.
sj - Jul 15, 2014 6:36:04 am PDT #12211 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
The plumber's son (also a plumber) was here an hour longer than estimated. Which probably means the bill is going to be larger than the estimate. It probably would have gone faster if his dad had stopped calling to find out what was taking so long.
Laura - Jul 15, 2014 8:56:13 am PDT #12212 of 30002
Our wings are not tired.
They should bill you the estimated amount.
Wow, 65 years is a long time. So often one follows the other pretty quickly because the stress and grief wallops the immune system.
And how are you feeling, sj?
sj - Jul 15, 2014 9:37:31 am PDT #12213 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
I'm okay. I find myself alternating between fine and bursting into tears with little provocation, and I'm very tired.
They should bill you the estimated amount.
No written estimate and it was more of a range. He did tell me up front that the labor costs would go up if it took longer than expected. We worked with this guy before, and I liked him in the past. However, his son was really unprofessional. So, we'll probably use someone else in the future.