Rest and be gentle with yourself.
This needed to be repeated.
In fact, everyone should make sure to do that.
Dawn: You're not fleeing. You're... moving at a brisk pace. Buffy: Quaintly referred to in some cultures as the Big Scaredy Run Away.
'Touched'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Atropa - Jul 08, 2014 11:14:20 am PDT #12022 of 30002
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
Calli - Jul 08, 2014 11:33:44 am PDT #12023 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I hope you have a swift, painless recovery sj.
Connie Neil - Jul 08, 2014 11:34:40 am PDT #12024 of 30002
brillig
Well, that was a thousand dollars I had a better use for. Kara said she'd pay half of it, though it would have to be in installments. Sweet mother goddess, I hate funeral homes. I may never be able to cope with floral upholstery again. I would have been so much happier in a fucking business office than that dreadful faux-living room.
Now I get to talk to Social Security and get his disability ended--but I'll get a check for $250! I wonder if I'll get to keep this month's payment or if they'll want it back. That's my Friday to look forward to.
And I hadn't even thought of probate. He refused to do a will because everything is held jointly and "I don't have anything."
Connie Neil - Jul 08, 2014 11:34:58 am PDT #12025 of 30002
brillig
Easier days, sj.
sj - Jul 08, 2014 11:35:24 am PDT #12026 of 30002
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Thanks, everyone. So far I'm in a lot less pain than I was before the surgery, but I'm wary of how I'll feel when whatever was in the iv wears off. TCG is home today, and mom will be here all day tomorrow. TCG is getting me more gatorade and a loaf of bread from the farmer's market for dinner (which will also include leftover pasta from yesterday and meatballs that my grandfather made.
Connie Neil - Jul 08, 2014 11:42:32 am PDT #12027 of 30002
brillig
I had a wonderful lunch with Kara. She went with me to take care of things. She's going to take his ashes, because I have a soul deep "can't cope" when it comes to remains. He was still my husband there in the hospital room, but the idea of handling a box of what used to be him makes me scream inside.
So she's going to sneak him into the national forest near here, where he used to work and was so happy, and not ask permission and let the woods take him. It's probably not environmentally good, but I'm a little past that a the moment.
But that part's done. Now the dreadful, dreary legalities.
SuziQ - Jul 08, 2014 11:44:19 am PDT #12028 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
sj, you just brought back the memory of what I did the day I had my D&C. We left the hospital and went to the Exploratorium in SF. K-Bug was in a stroller, so I had that for extra support, but I remember feeling so much better. Had forgotten about that.
You are in my thoughts and I'm glad you have family there for you.
SuziQ - Jul 08, 2014 11:46:14 am PDT #12029 of 30002
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
That is a huge step, Connie. I'm glad Kara is helping and the forest sounds like a good place for the ashes.
You too, are in my thoughts and I wish you as much ease as possible through the paperwork jungle.
Glamcookie - Jul 08, 2014 11:51:00 am PDT #12030 of 30002
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Oh Connie, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm glad you have someone helping with the business that must be done in the midst of such raw pain. Thinking of you.
{{{sj}}} Thoughts headed your way, too.
Also, to MM and Aimee after the loss of MM's mom.
Back the eff off, universe! It's too damned much!
omnis_audis - Jul 08, 2014 11:54:12 am PDT #12031 of 30002
omnis, pursue. That's an order from a shy woman who can use M-16. - Shir
{{{ Connie }}}}
{{{ SJ }}}
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Wedding festivities are all done. Rumor has it, I did a good job as officiant. Signed the papers this morning. It's all legal. They are officially married! Party was a great time, had by all. And we got the hall cleaned up by 1am. Today, I am *very* sore. Back, legs, arms. Lots of standing/walking all day. So I'm spending the day escaping the world and staying off my feet.