"Great. Then, I guess we're done." But I can be a bitch like that.
Remember that sex we were planning to have, ever again?
Zoe ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 48: I Say, We Go Out There, and Kick a Little Demon Ass.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
erikaj - Jun 18, 2014 6:17:07 pm PDT #11466 of 30002
Always Anti-fascist!
Burrell - Jun 18, 2014 6:24:40 pm PDT #11467 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
All that makes him sound like his ego is super defended--almost barricaded--against others/change/pain/whatever. Must be a lot of anxiety and pain to put up such a radical defense. I'm sorry his defenses end up hurting you too, but please know they are not about you, askye. You've done nothing wrong.
askye - Jun 18, 2014 6:36:46 pm PDT #11468 of 30002
Thrive to spite them
Burrell, I know that. I even tried to tell him that but it just got him frustrated because I was "trying to take responsiblity for something that wasn't about me" or I was making it all about me. I wasn't I was trying to say, our home life wasn't great, a lot of it had to do with my illness, my brother's feelings and emotions got shunted to the side and it sucks but it also informs how we react to things today.
But he told me that wasn't how he is. He doesn't let the past influence him.
We've agreed that it would be good if I regularly Skyped with my nephew and we're going to work on times and just start small. I'm hoping that will help.
I'm also going to find some information about the 2 chronic illnesses I deal with and email them to him so he can read them if he wants. If he doesn't then he doesn't.
Burrell - Jun 18, 2014 6:48:59 pm PDT #11469 of 30002
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
As long as you know that, askye, that's what's important. He might have a hard time seeing past his defenses.
SailAweigh - Jun 19, 2014 6:01:29 am PDT #11470 of 30002
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
askye, it took my brother a long time to finally concede that both my nephew and my son suffer from ADD/ADHD. I mean, close to 30 years of observing them before it finally sank in. There may still be hope for your brother.
smonster - Jun 19, 2014 8:59:11 am PDT #11471 of 30002
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.
sj, I am so sorry.
bonny, I'm glad you have all those good memories of Niki and sorry that the visit didn't go well.
I'm just going to curl up in a corner of the thread, don't mind me.
WindSparrow - Jun 19, 2014 9:01:46 am PDT #11472 of 30002
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Hands smonster a pillow to make her corner comfy.
Zenkitty - Jun 19, 2014 9:59:26 am PDT #11473 of 30002
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.
Much much ~ma for Kara, smonster.
Calli - Jun 19, 2014 10:08:31 am PDT #11474 of 30002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I hope Kara's out of the hospital and feeling well soon.
amyth - Jun 19, 2014 10:22:05 am PDT #11475 of 30002
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
Lots of ~ma for Kara, smonster.