Burrell, I know that. I even tried to tell him that but it just got him frustrated because I was "trying to take responsiblity for something that wasn't about me" or I was making it all about me. I wasn't I was trying to say, our home life wasn't great, a lot of it had to do with my illness, my brother's feelings and emotions got shunted to the side and it sucks but it also informs how we react to things today.
But he told me that wasn't how he is. He doesn't let the past influence him.
We've agreed that it would be good if I regularly Skyped with my nephew and we're going to work on times and just start small. I'm hoping that will help.
I'm also going to find some information about the 2 chronic illnesses I deal with and email them to him so he can read them if he wants. If he doesn't then he doesn't.
As long as you know that, askye, that's what's important. He might have a hard time seeing past his defenses.
askye, it took my brother a long time to finally concede that both my nephew and my son suffer from ADD/ADHD. I mean, close to 30 years of observing them before it finally sank in. There may still be hope for your brother.
sj, I am so sorry.
bonny, I'm glad you have all those good memories of Niki and sorry that the visit didn't go well.
I'm just going to curl up in a corner of the thread, don't mind me.
Hands smonster a pillow to make her corner comfy.
Much much ~ma for Kara, smonster.
I hope Kara's out of the hospital and feeling well soon.
Lots of ~ma for Kara, smonster.
So much ~ma for Kara, smonster.
TMI update from my appointment today:
I haven't fully miscarried yet, but there is no heartbeat at this point. I'm hoping to miscarry over the next two weeks so I can avoid a d&c, mainly because I don't want anesthesia again.
That's a really rough situation, sj. I'm so sorry.