Wow.

ION I have joined a health club. It's only a block away so really convenient.

Convenient is awesome!

The empanada I ate for dinner is stabbing me in the stomach. I get them every week, no idea why it hates me tonight? But then, even my swim hated me, so maybe that's just that.

ION I have joined a health club. It's only a block away so really convenient.

You're gonna be so ripped!

Vent ahead...warning.

K-Bug, when I agreed that you bf could stay with us it was because it cut down his commute by a ton. And he was going home, sometimes taking you, on the weekends. Well, now he is unemployed. Doesn't go anywhere without you. Doesn't like you to do anything without him. Is cutting you off from your friends. And you both were extremely rude and antisocial today when we had a mutual friend over to make cookies.

But I never get one on one time with you anymore so I never have the chance to say any of this. But I think you know all this cause you avoid talking with me during the few moments available.

Yes, he cleaned the fridge and helped organize the garage. But he hasn't paid his share of the food in two weeks. I'm also not looking forward to him being home next week while I'm working. I may have to work from the office and I hate that.

In short. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

and my folks have clearly not been sharing a table with anyone. They eat alone at a small table in the corner, which makes me sad. How will they meet people if they don't make an effort?

While I can see where them meeting people and being social would be excellent and best for them long-term, possibly just for brief moments accepting this is home now might be Good Enough? As much as I absolutely see this is the right place for them, I can see where it is hard and then, on top of that, change itself being hard. If they eat alone at a small table for a bit, at least they are eating in the communal space and maybe slowly both adapting. Unless you think that meeting others and feeling a part of a communal group will help them in the actual acts of accepting and settling, in which case, push.

K-Bug, when I agreed that you bf could stay with us

Yikes! Bad offer.

You need to talk to her and tell him to go home, and get his shit together and get a job and whatnot.

And talk to her maybe about how her boyfriends tend to dominate her life and she makes bad choices around them and she's so much cooler and more awesome than being defined by her guy. Which she is.

Also, quit dating guys that chew tobacco.

Yikes! Bad offer.

I wouldn't go that far. It seemed at the time like it could work out OK. Just because it didn't, doesn't mean it was destined not to.

Anyway, Suzi, I do agree that you are well within your rights to tell him it's time to go. Dude has long overstayed his welcome.

I wouldn't go that far. It seemed at the time like it could work out OK. Just because it didn't, doesn't mean it was destined not to.

I've seen so many of these situations go south in a hurry. In fact, Suzi had a similar issue when K-Bug was in high school and her friend needed a place to stay.

Not to be all critical of Suzi. I do admire the impulse to extend yourself and help people.

And yet - some people don't have their shit together and will just take and take in those circumstances.