I can imagine the trinket hairstyle in many of the places I've worked, but I've only worked for nonprofits, and in many cases I can't picture it in the administration side of things.

That said, generally straight cis girls don't feel a need to identify as "femme"--it's the default. The heterosexist patriarchal default, but still. It's a tradition in the lesbian community but also in part saying "I don't have to be your stereotype of a lesbian, I can be what I want".

There's definitely straight feminist reclaiming of femininity, but maybe not the actual term femme.

ION about me, I thought it was a nice day to walk home, but I was WRONG. So sweaty now.

Health ~ma doe Aunt Karen and Becca.

One of my friends describes herself as "high femme," and she's cis* but identifies as pansexual. (She is, however, not even remotely in Jilli's ballpark of commitment to an aesthetic and the execution of that aesthetic. She basically wears long hippie skirts and birkenstocks and has looooong curly hair and gets gel manicures. I would not call that "high femme.")

I am higher femme than that! Depending on what you mean by high. Maybe she means like high on pot??

I am higher femme than that! Depending on what you mean by high. Maybe she means like high on pot??

I think that *she* thinks she's femme as hell. Which is...you know, you can call yourself whatever you want, but that doesn't make it true.

And, in entirely UN-femme-ness, I need this t-shirt: [link] Too bad my income is about to evaporate.

Steph, is it mean that I laughed at your friend's version of "high femme"? I know I have a high bar for this, but really.

She can come talk to me on a work day, and we can have a femme-off.

I will also say that even when you are watching your pennies, I think it's important not to feel like you have to punish yourself every day with every decision. So, you know, you can get a new t-shirt. Just not every new t-shirt.

Steph, is it mean that I laughed at your friend's version of "high femme"? I know I have a high bar for this, but really.

No, seriously. She basically dresses like me, but with a gel manicure. I love her, but I think she's higher femme in her head than she is in execution.

I will also say that even when you are watching your pennies, I think it's important not to feel like you have to punish yourself every day with every decision. So, you know, you can get a new t-shirt. Just not every new t-shirt.

This is true. Plus I still have an income at this moment. Just not for long.