msbelle, that's wonderful.

Consuela, must be this case: [link] ?

It does feel a bit as though we did betray her: we knew she wouldn't want to be in assisted living

You've made good decisions for your family. Once upon a time she made decisions for the family (rather than only based on the wishes of one member), so if you could talk to her, she'd get it, I think.

Mac! That's so wonderful!

I still think you had no better option, Consuela, I'm sorry you feel bad about it.

" a joy to have in the classroom" "very responsible" "good cooperation skills"

WOW! Fantastic! So proud of Mac and happy for you both!

Just because it's not what she'd want (now, in the last ten years, whatever) doesn't mean it's not the right thing. And right and want are coinciding for the rest of her family, so this is only emotionally complicated (which is to say: bunches). But don't ever think you're not doing the right thing for her as well as all of you guys.

I woke up this morning in an "I'm cured!" mood (it's either that or "I'm dying!" which was Tues and Wed), but it didn't make it all the way to the office. I'm scared to dig myself out of the email avalanche...

I had a pain doc appointment yesterday. It was definitely one of the visits that helps keep the 7min average low, but unless he'd discovered a cure since I'd last been in...it was just a checkup on progress or lack of.

As I was heading back to the elevator, a woman followed me out. She'd heard me say the word "neurostimulator" when talking to the office staff, and she wanted my opinion on them. Apparently she's had it recommended for her too (her pain is so bad she can't work) but hadn't done any research, it seemed. I told her my reservations (invasive, not designed to help my primary complaint, expensive as all fuck and coverage not yet determined) and we had a sweet little chat. I don't remember why I gave her my email information, but her last words were "I will pray for your pain to go away when I pray for mine to" which is pretty much up there for sweetest things proffered by a complete stranger.

As my mother's attitude during cancer was: CAN IT MAKE IT WORSE? NO? DO IT. DO IT TWICE.

And...I need a second cup of (Rishi) tea. Parched this morning. And then to stop being avoidant.

Yay, Mac!

Aww, that's great news about Mac.

Sparky- Nope, it's this one. It's one of those cases the environmental lobby rather wishes hadn't been granted cert.

But don't ever think you're not doing the right thing for her as well as all of you guys.

Thanks, ita. I don't actually doubt it, but it's good to hear it from outsiders, too. And it's a much better place for Dad, honestly.

Go Mac, academic rockstar!

Scrappy are you in Minnesota this week?