but mostly, it's me standing around, feeling awkward and wondering how the humans do it.

Which is why you have me to text in times like that.

But this conversation reminded me of a question I wanted to ask: what's the term for someone who is very much an extrovert, but absolutely needs a certain amount of alone time/down time?

And speaking of networking: this weekend is Emerald City Comic Con, and Pete has a table. So I'm reprising my role as booth assistant. Which is going to be extra exciting, because the Kickstarter for the M:tG anniversary art book just launched. [link]

Pete is one of the organizers, and the person running the Kickstarter. I swear I won't slip Xanax into his coffee to manage his stress levels.

I used to be awkward with the hairdresser. but now I have one that lives in my neighborhood- so we have stuff to talk about , even if I only see her once every 2 years...

It helps that all my dental hygenist are young --

It is interesting - I am not shy. But there are a bunch of situations where I am confused about why I should say anything

I think Hec (or anyone else) should find me pictures of short haircuts for thick curly hair that I can take to my hairdresser, who doesn't seem to think I actually want short hair.

Then I wouldn't have to talk to her so much.

Jilli,

an extrovert is someone who takes energy from interacting with others, while an introvert is someone who takes energy from being alone, yes?

so in your case, I would call you an introvert who can pass. :-)

I am borderlint extovert/introvert - where i end up depens on the day of the test -- so I think it is a sliding scale .

I am not a connector. because I am absolutely brilliant at forgeeting peoples names

now I have to go to work

what's the term for someone who is very much an extrovert, but absolutely needs a certain amount of alone time/down time?

oh oh oh that's me. I do not get enough extrovert time, meaning getting to just be around people - not necessarily interacting. I loathe to meet new people, but I do not mind crowds at all - being around people gives me energy. It's part of why working from home for more than 1 day a week would be horrible for me. Part of why I know I need a full-time job even if I were to win the lottery. Part of why I was so much less than optimal as a lone employee in an office.

Extrovert/introvert is a spectrum on a bell curve, not a binary. Most people need a mixture of socializing and alone time.

I think Hec should come to Brooklyn and cut my hair, because he is an extrovert and a friend and that would be nice.

I'd love to! I had a lot of fun cutting megan walker's hair when she wanted a bob.

I think Hec (or anyone else) should find me pictures of short haircuts for thick curly hair that I can take to my hairdresser, who doesn't seem to think I actually want short hair.

I'll see what I can do.

Whereas I like spending time with people, but I absolutely need my alone time to recharge.

Every time I try to chat with someone I'm not going to see again I feel like "Why are we wasting time on this inanity?" I have to remind myself that other people enjoy incidental human connection. I've noticed that men Hubby's age and older are insanely chatty with each other, he'll run into a man his age or older at the supermarket and they'll start sharing personal surgical details and such within seconds. "Do you know him?" i'll ask later. "Not a clue who he is," Hubby will say.