Yes, yes a million times: Bed makes itself in 50 seconds

I read that the Car Talk guys are retiring in September.

Nooo!

Nooooo! I love the Car Talk guys!

Weekend?

I have a list of a bunch of things I should do, which doesn't include buying a fancy pants grill at the OSH sale and spending the weekend trying to figure out how to use it, but I suspect that might be what happens anyway.

You should see my Don Draper seduction technique. Flawless. And I'm very fetching in a bathrobe.

Interesting all IT meeting this morning. I'm so freaking impressed by our CIO, you don't even know. If you want inspiration for women in IT kicking ass, she is the one. Former programmer, now CIO, and she also has the professional certifications in the line of business we support, so she knows precisely what the field is talking about--I don't think anyone else in IT is *that* trained up.

She wants to set up a mentoring program, and I realised a weird thing. She said it's totally fine if you go up to someone and just ask them to mentor you, but, oddly, I feel really weird doing that to a guy, and two of the people whose brains I most want to taste are male. I can't work out why I have such a serious hesitation. Neither of these guys has ever been anything other than impeccably professional to me.

Damn. That's annoying. I need to get over...whatever.

My sister is trying to pour fuel on my (one-sided) feud with Brian Moylan by sending me links to his articles now that he's left Gawker (he was the reason I feared getting unstarred or banned--I just vehemently disagreed with 3/4 of what he said). I have no perspective when it comes to his stupid ass, so let me crowdsource:

It's easy to accept attractive, affluent, normal couples in their matching sweater vests (which seem to be a hit with both square gay men and lesbians) but it's another thing to accept a 50-year-old man who is choosing to let his rear end hang out of his leather chaps

Do you think that's true? That homophobes find it easy to accept gay people that look and act "normal" (and by normal I mean they engage in the same amount of PDA with their partner as is considered appropriate for straight couples), or is it the daddy bear in rainbow leather chaps that they need to wrap their heads around (first--obviously the goal is for people to accept all the flavours).

I think there's a continuous othering that assumes gay people can't be "normal". That they're flagrant and flamboyant and dressed like the Village People and frequenting glory holes, and the like. Not looking like NPH and his husband will in 15 years--middle aged parents of kids trying to choose their university, driving an SUV since they haven't needed the minivan for years.

But I know my first reflex is to paint him as full of shit, so I can't tell where reacting to him ends, and my own opinion starts.

You should see my Don Draper seduction technique. Flawless. And I'm very fetching in a bathrobe.

But how are you at telling time?

I have a list of a bunch of things I should do, which doesn't include buying a fancy pants grill at the OSH sale and spending the weekend trying to figure out how to use it, but I suspect that might be what happens anyway.

I need more caffeine, 'cause it took me almost a minute to realize a fancy pants grill wasn't some kind of laundry press.

ICompletelyON, daily report of possible interest to Jilli: a glossily lacquered early-to-mid Victorian (1840s) hearse on sled runners for winter funerals, in full working condition, all the parts included.

sobs

I NEED this. For what, I don't know. But I need it.

(Oh, an aside to all Buffistas who haunt thrift stores/used book stores/jumble stores: I am always on the lookout for editions of Dracula. I'm looking for anything pre 1970s, and under $20-25.)

Polgara,

I need to join you, because this is what I was thinking of:

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It's easy to accept attractive, affluent, normal couples in their matching sweater vests (which seem to be a hit with both square gay men and lesbians) but it's another thing to accept a 50-year-old man who is choosing to let his rear end hang out of his leather chaps

Betsy HP has a name for this, I forget what it is. But basically it's that the media for many years only showed the gay community as represented by the extremes: you know, the way the photos in the paper the day after the Pride Parade are all "Dykes on Bikes" and leather chaps and so forth. So people who lived in more, um, sheltered communities, who didn't think they knew any gay people, only had that image to draw on when they thought about homosexuality.

Do you think that's true? That homophobes find it easy to accept gay people that look and act "normal" (and by normal I mean they engage in the same amount of PDA with their partner as is considered appropriate for straight couples), or is it the daddy bear in rainbow leather chaps that they need to wrap their heads around

I think that, for some people, it's easiest to accept The Other when The Other doesn't look any different than you. It's a pretty shallow acceptance, mind, because it's really more like ignoring The Other than actually accepting them as full members of human society.

I think there's a continuous othering that assumes gay people can't be "normal".

I'm not sure what your argument is. Do some people only accept homosexuality when it looks just like heterosexuality? Yes. Is that a fair representation of homosexuality? No. Will full social acceptance necessarily require accepting the full range of homosexual life/lifestyle/expression? Yes.

But I think it's worth noting that the full range of heterosexual life/lifestyle/expression isn't socially accepted by mainstream America, either. Explicit expressions of sexuality that go past really vanilla M/F missionary-style fucking are not openly accepted in mainstream media or society, regardless of orientation--except for humorous purposes.