You can't open the book of my life and jump in the middle. Like woman, I'm a mystery.

Mal ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'


Natter 70: Hookers and Blow  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Strix - May 11, 2012 2:09:56 pm PDT #4668 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

Aims, I agree with Kat. I would go to the guidance counselor, document your observations on the behavior, have it on file.

And, as a mandated reporter, we reported ANY reports or possibilities of abuse, especially at the teen shelter. The documentation for a good paper trail is a PITA.

It totally sucks. I'm really sorry; I've been in some fucked-up parent-child-teacher situations and they just make you want to scream and/or throw up.

I am going to make butter chicken, then take a shower with a mani and pedi, because YAY warm weather and things to do involving patios and drinking.

And clean my office up some tonight. It's Heavy Item Pickup Day tomorrow and we hauled a couch and three freaking heavy chairs from the garage to the curb, plus some other stuff. UGH. Please, I just want it out of here!

I am actually taking a 2 hour yoga class tomorrow, buying a present for my friend, working and then going to her party that evening.

SPN on Sunday, along with errands and working.


Liese S. - May 11, 2012 2:11:55 pm PDT #4669 of 30001
"Faded like the lilac, he thought."

Yeah, you want the minor things on file so when the big things inevitably happen, you have documentation of a pattern of behavior, and you can document what you did in response.


shrift - May 11, 2012 2:12:55 pm PDT #4670 of 30001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty

Work has been crazeballs for me, too.

I think I'm going to sleep a ton and watch all the MST3K expiring from Netflix Instant Watch this weekend.


Aims - May 11, 2012 2:21:02 pm PDT #4671 of 30001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

Aims, I agree with Kat. I would go to the guidance counselor, document your observations on the behavior, have it on file.

The very basic of basics is that the kid told his mom that he was "touched" at his former day care. I use the air quotes to quote - not to lessen the events. We know because mom told Mrs H. We asked our school counselor if she was going to start pulling him out for help. SC says she can't because she (SC) wasn't told by mom and just Mrs H telling SC wasn't enough to warrant pulling him and if SC did and mom finds out, then everyone's in trouble for violating mom's confidence in Mrs H or some such shit. I believe that the principal agreed with SC. I said, "Well, he told me that he was touched at day care and Mrs G heard it. Isn't that enough to call in the SC?" and I was told no. It wasn't enough.

I don't know.

Basically, this kid has been sexually abused and NO ONE is helping him deal with it. He is out of the daycare, there are reports against the daycare (which had numerous other reports regarding the same damn thing) so that's good. But damn it - the kid needs something. And I don't know that calling CPS on the mom is going to help the situation any.


Aims - May 11, 2012 2:56:12 pm PDT #4672 of 30001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

Well, I called.

And I feel like shit about it.

The intake worker said that it probably would get screened out and not assigned, but still. I feel like shit.


Laura - May 11, 2012 3:03:17 pm PDT #4673 of 30001
Our wings are not tired.

You did the right thing, Aims. I'm sorry it was necessary.

I refuse to play board games with DH. I absolutely play for fun and couldn't care less about winning or losing. This makes DH as insane as his fierce competitive nature makes me. We probably haven't played a board game together in nearly 20 years. For some reason it doesn't make us crazy to play cards.


Scrappy - May 11, 2012 3:06:58 pm PDT #4674 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

I had a horrifyingly bad day at work. Still trying to sort out how much is me sucking and how much is my manager having wack expectations. Either way, I feel like I have been beat up.


Scrappy - May 11, 2012 3:09:12 pm PDT #4675 of 30001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Oh, and Aims, you did the right thing, but I know it must feel awful.


Vortex - May 11, 2012 3:10:14 pm PDT #4676 of 30001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

The intake worker said that it probably would get screened out and not assigned, but still. I feel like shit.

for what it's worth, I think that you did the right thing. if the kid gets some help, or even if documenting this is the thing that gets him help in the future, you've done a good thing.


Jesse - May 11, 2012 3:11:56 pm PDT #4677 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Yeah, Aims, what they said. You did a good thing.