Very pretty, javachik.
Hello, Karl. You've been in my thoughts.
We were in the waiting room with my dad, and whenever anyone else came into the waiting room (doctor, nurse, random stranger), my dad and I immediately switched on into "charming, set people at ease" mode. Neither of us were aware we were doing it, but we did.
Yes. And so very difficult *not* to do it.
flea, I posted here, on LJ and DW and a couple of other places when it happened to my account. A couple of people mentioned it and I apologized, and that was it. I don't think a mailing list apology is called for, really.
Um. That's not really how I would characterize adoption.
Lee, of COURSE it isn't, which is my point. Well-meaning people, when they hear that I am struggling with not having kids, pipe up very eagerly with "you can always adopt!" It irritates me because adoption IS NOT simple, and it feels a lot like they're not really listening to me or caring. It feels very dismissive about what I might actually be struggling with.
Signed, sorry, everyone, and you should really use my gmail anyway, I just never closed my yahoo address because have you met my mother?
I still have my yahoo address because for some reason, I can't open any attachments I receive through my gmail account. I have no idea what's up with that; but I need to forward anything to my yahoo account before I can open it.
Yahoo is connected to my flickr account and I use it for several email groups. It's still convenient.
Lee, of COURSE it isn't, which is my point.
Ah! I guess it never would have occurred to me that people suggesting adoption would think it was that easy.
Remember the kale and chorizo with poached egg thing I was making a while ago? On a similar note, every bit as good with mixed greens, bacon, and some dried chile. And that's all stuff in the house!
Oh, good, I think that's what I had in mind when I was trying to think of something I could make with bok choy and eggs. And I have bacon in the freezer. Dinner, ahoy!
I guess it never would have occurred to me that people suggesting adoption would think it was that easy.
Not in this day and age, anyway.
I used to get all upset at people who responded to my difficulty to getting pregnant with "you should just adopt."
Oh yes. Because that process is easier? Bah.
I am wiped out but good today.
Yeah, they're definitely not people who've been adopted or have adopted. They're usually well-meaning friends with biological babies.
What's interesting is that in my bio-mother's immediate family (herself and siblings), there are literally more babies adopted out than not. She, her identical twin sister, and their baby brother had 5 kids among them adopted out. I am not even counting myself because my grandfather adopted me, so I stayed in the family. Counting me, six of 8 of my cousins were adopted out. Three stranger adoptions, two step-parent adoptions (my aunt and my uncle both had children with others and relinquished all rights and allowed the new parent to adopt - never to see their offspring again).
