This is probably not that helpful, but I know that when well-meaning people make me stabby, it's mostly because of me, not them. So usually I can just wait it out and I more or less get over it, and/or develop ways to deal with it.
My work's illegal, but at least it's honest.
Mal ,'Shindig'
Natter 69: Practically names itself.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Jesse - Oct 06, 2011 5:31:39 pm PDT #696 of 30001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Dana - Oct 06, 2011 5:36:34 pm PDT #697 of 30001
"I'm useless alone." // "We're all useless alone. It's a good thing you're not alone."
I am still watching Spooks, but very very slowly, so I'm in like series 4.
Juliebird - Oct 06, 2011 5:39:15 pm PDT #698 of 30001
I am the fly who dreams of the spider
le sigh. Yeah, if I was a better person, more patient, less short-fusey it'd be okayish. But, I am not a poker-faced person. I have tried. Deep calming breaths make me look more pissed off than I actually am.
§ ita § - Oct 06, 2011 5:42:21 pm PDT #699 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
So, if I end up looking at a car from Craigslist, how do I go about ensuring the car is actually in good condition? I don't know crap about cars.
le nubian - Oct 06, 2011 5:45:00 pm PDT #700 of 30001
"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."
take it to a mechanic, ita. have the mechanic look it over and certify it is in good condition.
§ ita § - Oct 06, 2011 5:46:51 pm PDT #701 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Is that standard? For the seller to let you take the car? How much would a mechanic usually charge for such a once-over?
sarameg - Oct 06, 2011 5:48:11 pm PDT #702 of 30001
Who is the mechanic who fixed Allyson's car? Get recs from friends for reputable independent mechanics who will do a once over and estimate. Only agree to look at if if your mechanic can check it out. (My pricey but excellent guys charge $50-$90 for that, but will also give you negotiating points and saved me 3K for that cost.)
DavidS - Oct 06, 2011 6:01:58 pm PDT #703 of 30001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Is that standard?
Yep.
For the seller to let you take the car?
My last seller came with me to the garage.
How much would a mechanic usually charge for such a once-over?
Our mechanic did it for free to engender business. Others might charge a small amount. Set it up beforehand. Mostly they're going to check for emissions and look for leaks and signs that there might be bigger issues.
Kat - Oct 06, 2011 6:07:58 pm PDT #704 of 30001
"I keep to a strict diet of ill-advised enthusiasm and heartfelt regret." Leigh Bardugo
brenda, you've been in my thoughts today. Are things still feeling too big?
ita, sorry about the car. We've had good experiences at Carmax, though (both buying and selling).
I sat in an hour long after school meeting About Nothing. I'm kinda annoyed.
Ginger - Oct 06, 2011 6:20:06 pm PDT #705 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
From the Annals of Crime Makes You Stupid: [link]
A phone thief takes a picture of himself that is automatically uploaded to the phone owner's Facebook account.