I was so utterly pee-my-pants terrified to post that! I should have known to have more trust in the ability of Buffistas to be reflective and gracious and not tell me to fuck off, Jack. I do so dearly love this place and these people.

No, you did the right thing, and I'm ashamed of myself that I framed this conversation in my head, and then kind of said "No, not today" because I was in a crappy mood, and didn't think I'd frame it well.

smonster, I've only just recently come into frequent contact with this colleague, who suddenly became out volunteer coordinator, and now I have much more association with recently because of that. So, I've only just recently been frustrated with her on this scale so frequently, and so only just recently began contemplating how to address this with her. I'm terrible in conversation, terrible at any type of confrontation, as amicable as it might be, and can't articulate for shite. My gut reaction is that she'd stare at me quizzically about the "communicational styles" and make me repeat myself five different ways and then we'd have a five hour brainstorming session as she honestly tried to figure out where we were misfiring.

Whenever I think of cuttlefish, I think of beachy Mozambique, because that was when I made the connection between those things birds sharpened their beaks on with squid the night I had squid fresh from the ocean and the "sink" where they cleaned the food was littered with the cuttle-thingies. I had no idea. And l learned I think squid is a texture I Don't Do.

Juliebird, have you tried framing it as "different communicational styles?" Just a thought.

I was thinking something like that--don't say what you're thinking, but more "I know you like to talk things over, and I hope it doesn't bother you that I tend to prefer to process internally, and be somewhat more brief or even brusque in my communication. I like to focus on the question and answer directly, but I know there can be good points and new thoughts raised when we discuss a topic together. Blah blah email me more/talk to someone else" or something?

Cuttlefish are amazing.

Cass! I am diving back in to Spooks, and I blame you. Thanks!

Caring is sharing. Even when it's obsessively watching Spooks. I'm mid-season 3. Which, I think is maybe where I originally started watching. Maybe.

Timelies,

Fuck cancer and ma~ for all its victims!

The universe can back the fuck off of ita ! and all the rest of the Buffistas any time now!

SuzyQ, can K-bug and Cj learn to live with the fact that they are half Awesome! and half Asshole? I'm sure your genes are the stronger ones!

Happy Birthday, Sail.

Plei, thanks! I'd gone to look at Carmax, like the corporate whore I am, but not Craigslist.

Sue, thank you in a very different way.

I think the most frustrating thing is that this coworker has her office in another building and her server and email is wifi and pretty sketchy, and she has to do things FTF in order to get things done in a timely manner. It's the worst combination.

She's also pulled shit like leaving me a sticky note to discuss a topic with another colleague, asked me to email a volunteer because she'd be out of the office, only to then do both things herself. And it's not malicious or manipulative like our ED, but it's still a timewaste. I just want to take her behind the shed and put one behind her ear. Or mine, maybe.

Yeah, what meara said. I'm a rambler myself but I'm conscious of it and try to rein myself in. You could even do variations on, "I'm sorry, I really need to go do X right now, can you email me your thoughts?" (oops, xpost. oh well)

New Bloggess post! I am so buying those cards. [link]

There's also truecar, which I mention because my friend Deb, who incidentally does not herself own a car, works there.