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Theodosia - Oct 23, 2011 9:54:12 am PDT #2857 of 30001

'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

I'm usually reticent to play the "keep the news from family member" game, but currently my Mom is not only not doing well healthwise, but she's having panic attacks that she's under a doctor's care for. At this point, she's having major upset if a home health aide is a half hour late, so waiting a couple days till we can tell her a definitive version of what's going on seems to actually be a good idea, for once.

I didn't know tonsillectomies were that major in an adult, but I guess I shouldn't be surprised. He's had to have a tracheotomy to let him breathe easier at this point, because of the swelling from the surgery, which also isn't much fun.

Amy - Oct 23, 2011 9:56:00 am PDT #2858 of 30001

Because books.

Oh, Theo, I'm sorry to hear that. All kinds of ~ma for him. And I agree that holding off telling your mom for a few days is a good idea.

Theodosia - Oct 23, 2011 9:56:04 am PDT #2859 of 30001

'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Also tonight: the start of Once Upon A Time, and also for me, The Amazing Race and The Walking Dead. And my roommate is recording both The Good Wife and Desperate Housewives.

le nubian - Oct 23, 2011 10:00:55 am PDT #2860 of 30001

"And to be clear, I am the hell. And the high water."

I didn't know tonsillectomies were that major in an adult

Apparently after about age 21, we do not tolerate pain in that area of the mouth as well as kids do. My ENT told me that adults have died from that surgery and the recovery period is very long.

Freaked me right out and I did everything to avoid having surgery.

Ginger - Oct 23, 2011 10:02:23 am PDT #2861 of 30001

"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

waiting a couple days till we can tell her a definitive version of what's going on seems to actually be a good idea, for once.

Absolutely. There's so much uncertainty and it takes time to get definitive answers. There's no point in her going through all those ups and downs.

Cashmere - Oct 23, 2011 10:02:47 am PDT #2862 of 30001

Now tagless for your comfort.

Theo, that's awful! I agree that withholding that information is the right thing to do for your mom. I hope your brother can recover without more trauma and loss of function.

§ ita § - Oct 23, 2011 10:02:51 am PDT #2863 of 30001

Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

In case of other health (mental and physical) problems, I do get the withholding things. You don't want to exacerbate a delicate condition. It's when everyday life is the delicate condition that I get pissed.

Ginger - Oct 23, 2011 10:10:42 am PDT #2864 of 30001

"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda

I'm in the "don't tell anyone until you have the whole story and maybe not even then" camp. I have been told repeatedly that I'm wrong. I don't know what the answer is.

I had a tonsillectomy at 15 and it was hell.

Anne W. - Oct 23, 2011 10:15:03 am PDT #2865 of 30001

The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.

{{{Theo}}}

I do agree that waiting to say anything to your mom is probably the wisest course.

Beverly - Oct 23, 2011 10:26:59 am PDT #2866 of 30001

Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

Agree that waiting for definite details before you tell your mom is the wisest course. And you and your brother have all my good thoughts and healing wishes.

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