waiting a couple days till we can tell her a definitive version of what's going on seems to actually be a good idea, for once.

Absolutely. There's so much uncertainty and it takes time to get definitive answers. There's no point in her going through all those ups and downs.

Theo, that's awful! I agree that withholding that information is the right thing to do for your mom. I hope your brother can recover without more trauma and loss of function.

In case of other health (mental and physical) problems, I do get the withholding things. You don't want to exacerbate a delicate condition. It's when everyday life is the delicate condition that I get pissed.

I'm in the "don't tell anyone until you have the whole story and maybe not even then" camp. I have been told repeatedly that I'm wrong. I don't know what the answer is.

I had a tonsillectomy at 15 and it was hell.

{{{Theo}}}

I do agree that waiting to say anything to your mom is probably the wisest course.

Agree that waiting for definite details before you tell your mom is the wisest course. And you and your brother have all my good thoughts and healing wishes.

I'm in the "don't tell anyone until you have the whole story and maybe not even then" camp.

I would have preferred to know what my mother was going through prior to her successful diagnosis. They kept MONTHS of doctors visits from me. MONTHS.

Does anyone still need a dead man's trigger on a suicide bomber's vest explained to them anymore?

Best thoughts to your family, Theo.

And thanks for the ~ma for my friends, y'all. S's wife just posted to say that they're all doing OK, just taking things slowly, and labor has not started yet. Now that I know everything is OK and she hasn't been laboring for two days, I'm kind of hoping the baby holds off until tomorrow so it can share my birthday!

This is the problem with modern technology wrt having babies! A similar thing happened with my coworker -- we heard she was going to the hospital, and then nothing for like 4 days! Yeah, we got in touch and found out she had had the baby days earlier, just hadn't let us know. I'd rather just hear nothing until "here's the baby!"

Does anyone still need a dead man's trigger on a suicide bomber's vest explained to them anymore?

I wouldn't think so. At least I can think of several occasions on shows like Law & Order when they said the bomber had a dead man's trigger without further explanation.

Whine - for the first time this weekend, I finally got to just sit down and relax. Of course, that is when a first class headache decided to set in. No fair.