I'll join Jesse in the crying at work corner. Man I just hate the constant emotional drain. Therapist says I need friends, intimate, dependable, lean on friends.

I cried all the way through therapy today. Yay?

they would argue is isn't counterproductive, but claim yourself to be "anti-sexist."

What is the value of a gender-specific category?

I mostly just focus on not biting people at work.

Last day is tomorrow! I've never been so happy to be facing unemployment. (I realize I'm in a huge position of privilege here, since mr. flea is making a nice salary and we will be fine.)

But... but... but I thought we were your fake friends.

No, you're my real friends!

I cried all the way through therapy today. Yay?

That is totally how I roll, and why I think I should go back -- I don't need that shit leaking out at work, so I should get it done in my free time.

Yeah, I need to make some friends here in PA. My hang-out and talk peeps (Edit: as in -- cause me to leave my cave; noting taken away from the glowy box people at ALL) are mostly in DC and a couple in Baltimore. Also, I need to get to those places more. Also, I hate talking on the phone.

In better news, I'm making homemade chicken noodle, I'm going to call it stew since I just put some thickener in it, from the stock I made a few weeks ago. Man, I can't wait. It smells soooooo gooood. I am also baking a cake. Food as comfort. Yup.

We're right here, msbelle.

I do not understand the "I'm not a feminist but" people. They are often women who are saying something like "I'm not a feminist but I think corporations should have more women executives." They're stating opinions I would consider feminist, but don't want the label.

Does feminist mean large unpleasant person who'll shout at you or someone who believes women are human beings? To me it's the latter, so I sign up. ~Margaret Atwood

I do not understand the "I'm not a feminist but" people

I think it's the 80-20 rule. Or some approximation thereof. The feminists who make a lot of noise are the ones that have strange rules or say unpleasant things, and people who haven't bothered to educate themselves, or think through the basic axioms don't go much further than "I'm not one of them!"

Well, neither am I. The question is--do you have to be one of them to be feminist? Who said? And why are you taking their word for it?

I took a women's history class and the textbook had a definition like "a feminist is a person who believes in and supports the social,ecomomic, and political equality of women."

It might have been just "a woman" but I'm prett sure it was person. And works toward in there after support.

My own definition of feminist is a person who believes in and suppprts equality for everyone. Because mainly I believe on equality and I don't think I could only be for some women .

Also the I'm not a feminist bit wpmen seem to buy into a very narrow view of femimist. It's hairy man hating women. Or you can't like make up/vintage clothes/doll collecting/whatever and be a feminist.

One of the big divisions I see people bumping into in common feminist discussions is choice feminism. A visible number of people identifying themselves as feminists do not support the idea of choice so far as to 100% support women staying at home and raising children, or wearing heels and corsets, or doing other typically feminine things. If they make enough noise and make it seem like you can't do that and be feminist (which is a far cry from the unreality of the hairy-legged man-hating feminist, because these women I can actually spot in the wild quite frequently), I'm not surprised to see people separate themselves from the cause.

I would say the number of feminist who don't support that are pretty small. I think a larger number of feminists would support that choice, but not confine it to women - that is they are also fine with men staying home and raising children or wearing heels and corsets, or doing whatever "typically feminine things" they choose.