Oh, ita, so very sorry. At least with internet and Skype and whatnot, you can "be there" more than not, which really does help.
Buffy: A Guide, but no water or food. So it leads me to the sacred place and then a week later it leads you to my bleached bones? Giles: Buffy, really. It takes more than a week to bleach bones.
'Dirty Girls'
Natter 69: Practically names itself.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Theodosia - Oct 22, 2011 5:35:50 am PDT #2756 of 30001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
§ ita § - Oct 22, 2011 5:50:50 am PDT #2757 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
you can "be there" more than not
I wish I could, but I won't be driving her to chemo, or helping her recover, or holding her hand, or feeding her when she can't feed herself, etc. I can talk to her, but...
billytea - Oct 22, 2011 5:52:03 am PDT #2758 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
I'm sorry, ita. It's tough when you feel so far away.
Ginger - Oct 22, 2011 6:31:29 am PDT #2759 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I'm so sorry, ita.
If it's any help, I will say that I've known several people on the standard chemo regimens for colon cancer, and the odds are that she'll be driving herself (if she drives at all) and feeding herself just fine. There's often an initial shakedown, because some people are allergic to one of the components of the cocktail and they have to do some adjustments, but after that, most people just get progressively more tired. That chemo is often given on a pump, but a lot of people can't stand the pump.
I do have some suggestions that seem to help people have an easier time with chemo, if you'd like me to send them to you.
Lee - Oct 22, 2011 6:38:33 am PDT #2760 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Ginger's suggestions certainly helped me, for what that is worth.
Anne W. - Oct 22, 2011 6:49:49 am PDT #2761 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
ita, I wish I had something better to say than 'I'm sorry,' but you and your mom (and the rest of your family) will be in my thoughts.
Steph L. - Oct 22, 2011 7:37:23 am PDT #2762 of 30001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
I do have some suggestions that seem to help people have an easier time with chemo, if you'd like me to send them to you.
Ginger's suggestions certainly helped me, for what that is worth.
I love my Buffistas.
Fiona - Oct 22, 2011 7:50:19 am PDT #2763 of 30001
ita, I'm sorry. Best wishes to you and all your family.
§ ita § - Oct 22, 2011 8:02:38 am PDT #2764 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Thanks, Ginger. I'd love to hear anything. My mother has been told to expect a really rough time, and there's no way she'll be up and driving, I don't think before her first session.
Jessica - Oct 22, 2011 8:47:56 am PDT #2765 of 30001
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
ita, I'm so sorry to hear about the diagnosis. But being there emotionally is just as important as being there to "do" stuff.