Oh ita, I'm so sorry.
When we landed here you said you needed a few days to get space worthy again and is there somethin' wrong with your bunk?
Mal ,'Out Of Gas'
Natter 69: Practically names itself.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Burrell - Oct 21, 2011 7:57:23 pm PDT #2752 of 30001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
amyth - Oct 22, 2011 12:36:51 am PDT #2753 of 30001
And none of us deserving the cruelty or the grace -- Leonard Cohen
I'm really sorry, ita.
§ ita § - Oct 22, 2011 12:54:11 am PDT #2754 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Thanks, guys. I know my father was just trying to help, but he slipped past my defenses in a bad way there.
brenda m - Oct 22, 2011 4:00:09 am PDT #2755 of 30001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
ita !, i'm so sorry.
Theodosia - Oct 22, 2011 5:35:50 am PDT #2756 of 30001
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"
Oh, ita, so very sorry. At least with internet and Skype and whatnot, you can "be there" more than not, which really does help.
§ ita § - Oct 22, 2011 5:50:50 am PDT #2757 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
you can "be there" more than not
I wish I could, but I won't be driving her to chemo, or helping her recover, or holding her hand, or feeding her when she can't feed herself, etc. I can talk to her, but...
billytea - Oct 22, 2011 5:52:03 am PDT #2758 of 30001
You were a wrong baby who grew up wrong. The wrong kind of wrong. It's better you hear it from a friend.
I'm sorry, ita. It's tough when you feel so far away.
Ginger - Oct 22, 2011 6:31:29 am PDT #2759 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I'm so sorry, ita.
If it's any help, I will say that I've known several people on the standard chemo regimens for colon cancer, and the odds are that she'll be driving herself (if she drives at all) and feeding herself just fine. There's often an initial shakedown, because some people are allergic to one of the components of the cocktail and they have to do some adjustments, but after that, most people just get progressively more tired. That chemo is often given on a pump, but a lot of people can't stand the pump.
I do have some suggestions that seem to help people have an easier time with chemo, if you'd like me to send them to you.
Lee - Oct 22, 2011 6:38:33 am PDT #2760 of 30001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Ginger's suggestions certainly helped me, for what that is worth.
Anne W. - Oct 22, 2011 6:49:49 am PDT #2761 of 30001
The lost sheep grow teeth, forsake their lambs, and lie with the lions.
ita, I wish I had something better to say than 'I'm sorry,' but you and your mom (and the rest of your family) will be in my thoughts.