Oddly enough, while I don't like to just eliminate people for things like diet, I know there are some things I throw right up front in my OKC profile that I know will be deal-breakers for lots of women (like the fact that I live in LA and don't own a car). I've still managed to get a few dates.
Right, there comes a point where you have to either move on, or just buy yourself a Klingon costume and go with it.
Xander ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Sean K - Jan 29, 2012 3:10:06 pm PST #6488 of 30001
You can't leave me to my own devices; my devices are Nap and Eat. -Zenkitty
beth b - Jan 29, 2012 3:11:59 pm PST #6489 of 30001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!
If the entire profile wasn't appealing, then out the door it goes. If the overall picture is of someone I'd like to get to know, but he's missing something that I love to do, then that's not necessarily a deal breaker.
That is it exactly --I've tried to figure out how to some of the single women I know -there are things that sound like deal breakers until you look know the whole package the reading thing comes from dating non-readers that didn't want me to have time to read
erikaj - Jan 29, 2012 3:14:31 pm PST #6490 of 30001
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
I hate when people think they are being funny by not writing a profile.
Maria - Jan 29, 2012 3:15:53 pm PST #6491 of 30001
Not so nice is that I'm about to ruin a Friday morning for a bunch of people because of a series of unfortunate events and an upset foreign government. - shrift
erika, did you see this? [link]
erikaj - Jan 29, 2012 3:32:08 pm PST #6492 of 30001
"already on the kiss-cam with Karl Marx"-
That's so cool, Maria. Thanks.
Cass - Jan 29, 2012 4:23:20 pm PST #6493 of 30001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I am delurking in here to share that my mom LOVED Ayn Rand because of the ill-fated romances. Like, she had no idea they were political at all.
Fountainhead was recommended to me for the architecture and while I saw the political, it wasn't why I was happily reading the book and still have fond thoughts of it though not of the author herself. But I don't rec it to others because I know I went in with specific blinders.
Fred Pete - Jan 30, 2012 5:37:24 am PST #6494 of 30001
Ann, that's a ferret.
I've read and enjoyed The Count of Monte Cristo. But there are two versions.
Dumas wrote one of those thousand-page 19th-century novels of the type that I love to get lost in. But the unabridged version had a lot of content that wouldn't pass muster in the English-speaking countries of the era. So the publisher severely abridged the book for UK and US audiences. For example, the thinly veiled lesbian relationship was cut out.
So if someone says they like CoMC, I ask which one.
Connie Neil - Jan 30, 2012 5:55:16 am PST #6495 of 30001
brillig
I love the unabridged version. The long conversations about politics, the long descriptions of traveling in Italy, the long . . .
Well, yeah, long, but so good.
§ ita § - Jan 30, 2012 6:31:32 am PST #6496 of 30001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Why is liking it a lot supposed to be a red flag, again?
sj - Jan 30, 2012 7:08:23 am PST #6497 of 30001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Are we still doing onerous task day? So far today I have had bloodwork done and had my car inspected. But I still have to call and interview home inspectors in case our bid goes through.