Oy, Steph.
Well, the exam situation seems to have been resolved. Sort of. I'll see how well this actually works -- it's trusting six undergrads with a lot of responsibility, with pretty much no instructions for what they're supposed to do.
It's because you didn't have a strong father figure isn't it?
Joyce ,'Chosen'
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Hil R. - Oct 03, 2011 7:41:05 am PDT #612 of 30001
Sometimes I think I might just move up to Vermont, open a bookstore or a vegan restaurant. Adam Schlesinger, z''l
Typo Boy - Oct 03, 2011 7:48:35 am PDT #613 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Tep, in what I'm about to say I want to be clear that I'm not pressuring you to be a parent. Not only is it your right, but you are the best judge of what would or would not make you happy.
But if you got stuck with the job, you are way too good a person to act in some of the ways you fear. Again this is not me arguing about your decision. This is me objecting to you failing to sufficiently respect a person I'm fond of.
beekaytee - Oct 03, 2011 7:53:26 am PDT #614 of 30001
Compassionately intolerant
I'm with Typo on this, Steph.
At the same time, I am you in the being glad I am not a parent category.
I love kids. I favorably influence the lives of kids pretty much every day. I am so glad I am not inflicting my issues on kids.
Just giving out balloons last weekend was a chore in self-control. Not that the kids were wrong in their behavior, per se. It just took way too much of my grit to be nice about it.
Not full-time parenting material.
Typo Boy - Oct 03, 2011 7:55:47 am PDT #615 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Yeah also not parenting material.
Typo Boy - Oct 03, 2011 7:55:47 am PDT #616 of 30001
Calli: My people have a saying. A man who trusts can never be betrayed, only mistaken.Avon: Life expectancy among your people must be extremely short.
Ginger - Oct 03, 2011 8:15:14 am PDT #617 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
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I don't see any signs that you're taking after your mother, Teppy, and thank god for that. That's appalling.
Steph L. - Oct 03, 2011 8:22:06 am PDT #618 of 30001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
I don't see any signs that you're taking after your mother, Teppy
I think with kids it would be a whole different ballgame. I'm more or less okay in how I interact with people now (although, truly, I have a lot of her more narcissistic qualities; despite how much I try to hide it, I do tend to make things All About Me at every possible opportunity), but I think with children it would be vastly, vastly different.
I mean, thank you all for what you've said -- that's very kind. But I know myself, and I know what lives under my metaphorical bed.
Ginger - Oct 03, 2011 8:26:08 am PDT #619 of 30001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
I think everyone makes things All About Me. Civilized people learn not to act on every impulse and not say everything that comes into their heads.
Polter-Cow - Oct 03, 2011 8:26:35 am PDT #620 of 30001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I worry about the same thing, Teppy. But I want to have kids in order to be a better parent to them.
Steph L. - Oct 03, 2011 8:34:19 am PDT #621 of 30001
Unusually and exceedingly peculiar and altogether quite impossible to describe
But I want to have kids in order to be a better parent to them.
Well -- and I don't know if I can say this in a non-convoluted way -- the fear of becoming my mom is a big reason I don't want to have kids, but even if I were 100% sure I would never become my mom, I still don't want to have kids.
So, it's a big reason, but even if it were able to be alleviated, it's not the only reason.