Poor Charlie cat. Good -ma to you!

All my bras, except my sports bra, are underwires. I have owned some painful ones in the past, but no more. Life's too short for unnecessary boob pain.

There are Starbucks here in Seattle that sell wine and beer...but only in the afternoon/evening.

Yesterday a coworker told me I was very intimidating to her. She's the Lead (this company's equivalent to house manager) at that location. She started in January. I was boggled, and apologized and asked what it was I was doing that felt intimidating (because I have zero desire to intimidate anyone with the exception of people who want to hurt the people I work with so if I am coming across as arrogant or know-it-all, I want to correct myself). Her response was that I am quiet, have been here for so long, and have a really good relationship with the individuals at that house so that my mere presence cuts down on the more aggressive behaviors.

Um... what?

Starbucks with a liquor license is a fortune waiting to happen.

You do not lie.

Windsparrow,

is it possible she is misusing "intimidating" and means it as a positive?

WS is the Gimp Whisperer-- pass it on. My mother used to get feedback like that in her SPED jobs, too. In her case, it was like, yeah, I could see that. But there was one guy she worked with the whole house HATED, because he would end up doing physical takedowns on even the chillest residents and my mom never had to.

All cat~ma for Charlie.

I'm with le n, sounds like she meant it as a compliment.

Her response was that I am quiet, have been here for so long, and have a really good relationship with the individuals at that house so that my mere presence cuts down on the more aggressive behaviors.

Maybe she means that because she's new(ish), your skill is notable, and is -- "intimidated" is probably not the right word here -- impressed with your skill. Or maybe she means she's intimidated by the prospect of developing the kind of skill you have.

WS is the Gimp Whisperer

Snirk.

I want a badge that says that now. (ETA: I wouldn't actually wear the badge, I would keep it somewhere and once in a while for fun take it out and snirk at it.)

And I feel slightly less weird about that Lead. I'll take it as a compliment. And if it wasn't, well, there is one thing I have learned in this job, and that is that if I stick around long enough, the crazies will eventually quit. Or get fired.

WS, I read it as your Lead having her own case of imposter syndrome. How can she possibly lead you when you have things so well in hand?