Now, this would be the perfect time for a swear word.

Kaylee ,'Jaynestown'


Spike's Bitches 47: Someone Dangerous Could Get In  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risqué (and frisqué), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Strix - Apr 13, 2013 1:17:08 pm PDT #28710 of 30001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger

Tolliver.

And for additional WTF? Names fun: [link]


smonster - Apr 13, 2013 1:45:19 pm PDT #28711 of 30001
We won’t stop until everyone is gay.

Don't know if I'd change my name, but I do tend to try it out in my head with the name of whoever I'm dating. I'd want to keep my middle name that I have, though.


Zenkitty - Apr 13, 2013 1:49:14 pm PDT #28712 of 30001
Every now and then, I think I might actually be a little odd.

Personally, I have really resented the patriarchal assumption that women should change their name when they marry. This is something that has bothered me nearly my whole life.

I remember an argument I got into in high school with a teacher and another girl after I said I'd never change my last name. I was told loftily I'd feel differently after I fell in love, I'd WANT to change my name to his! I said, so then, if he loves me, why doesn't he change his name to mine? Oh, hilarity.

When I see the long Indian names in the credits of movies, I wonder if they have to be truncated to fill out the various computerized forms people have to fill out or if the forms are scalable.

A bunch of "my" authors have long Indian names, and they truncate them or just use initials. It screws up our systems when they use initials for their LAST name though.

I have a regular author whose last name is O, which apparently blows the minds of our typesetters. I usually get it back as O. Firstname. Because a name cannot be one letter.


askye - Apr 13, 2013 1:57:41 pm PDT #28713 of 30001
Thrive to spite them

I had the discussion with Will, would he be willing to change his name to my last name. He said no. Mostly because of his line of work being in sales. I forgot to argue that if I were in sales no one would think it would be weird if I changed my mind.

He doesn't expect me to change my name and has no strong feelings either way.

So I threw out - what if we created a new last name. After much discussion he'd be willing if we went with Who.

I tried to counter with Pond but he said he'd only be willing if we went with Who.


Glamcookie - Apr 13, 2013 2:15:35 pm PDT #28714 of 30001
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister

I have never intended to change my name, even when I dated dudes. Just wasn't something I thought twice about. We were going to hyphenate our kids' last name but I thought it was just too cumbersome, so told DW I wanted them to have her last name and mine would be their middle name. Not sure I'd have felt the same if I were married to a dude (on baby last names, that is).


JZ - Apr 13, 2013 2:31:37 pm PDT #28715 of 30001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.

Huh. The only Taliaferro I've ever known pronounced it just like bonny's.

I changed my name, mostly because I knew it would make David and his dad happy (it did, very much so) and I hoped it would make Emmett happy (what was I thinking? He couldn't possibly care less), and partly because David's ex had not and I was very firm on doing things differently than she had. Also, I was very tired of being at the end of the alphabet and liked the notion of trading up, at least a little bit.

I don't think any of those are especially good reasons, except the making David happy part, but the conclusion I've come to in the end is that I was really not much attached to my old surname and I'm not much attached to this one either - I would fight tooth and nail to keep Jacqueline, but it just doesn't matter that much to me what comes after that. I have my mom's brain and my grandmother's face and feet, and Matilda has my grandfather's sly grin and my cheek dimple; David and I have been married probably three times as long as he and his ex, and each of us is the person the other has been with longest in all our lives, and Emmett sometimes slips up and calls me Mom. And all those things matter much more to me than a surname.

Though if I could convince David that we should both change our names to Zmayhem, I'd be all the hell over that.


Nora Deirdre - Apr 13, 2013 3:13:39 pm PDT #28716 of 30001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

But not only will my last name change, but my Ms. changes to Mrs.

Wait, isn't the point of "Ms." that it doesn't denote marriage status (as opposed to Miss v. Mrs.)

part of my identity is spelling a difficult last name

Ahahahaha, yes.

I did not change my name or really even think about it as an option. I feel very much the same way le nubian does about it. We did discuss not-terribly-seriously about changing both our names to something new, but Tom was in the middle of getting his green card and knew that the feds would not be pleased about that kind of change.


Beverly - Apr 13, 2013 3:17:02 pm PDT #28717 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

JZ reminded me, one of the reasons I took H's name was I was tired of being in the dregs of the alphabet, too (I went to school with a girl whose last name, no lie, was Zyvith. I hope she married someone named Aaron).

But H and I had had the discussion, precisely because his name is difficult. Some of my friends were adamant about keeping their fathers' names. I've always missed the point of that, from a feminism stance--your father's name, your husband's name--it still a male relative's name. If you're so against taking a man's name, take your mom's name--oh, wait. Add to this is the fact I'm adopted. Legally, but still, I was not particularly attached to the name, which is not particularly attractive, and as I said earlier, latterly in the the alphabet, and I was rattling on about not really feeling as though I had a name of my own.

Whereupon, Himself cupped my nape in his hand, touched our foreheads together, and said, "Take mine." So, of course, I did.


Tom Scola - Apr 13, 2013 3:17:58 pm PDT #28718 of 30001
Remember that the frontier of the Rebellion is everywhere. And even the smallest act of insurrection pushes our lines forward.

You mean you didn't change your name to McWarnigle?


Beverly - Apr 13, 2013 3:18:58 pm PDT #28719 of 30001
Days shrink and grow cold, sunlight through leaves is my song. Winter is long.

You nor Tom?

We've been laboring under a misapprehension all this while?